In Which We Think About Erb’s Palsy, Again

When Nicholas was born he suffered a brachial plexus injury or Erb’s Palsy which caused his left arm to be paralyzed.  He has been doing remarkably well, recovering lots of movement and even being released from his weekly therapy sessions. Most people can not even tell that he has this injury.Cute Nicholas

However, over the last several weeks Mark and I have begun to notice some poor habits developing. It is very difficult for babies/children with Erb’s Palsy or brachial plexus injuries to turn their palm toward their body and this is what we have been noticing with Nicholas.

In order to get food into his mouth, he is often ‘helping’ his left hand by pushing it with his right. He is also having some difficulties with crawling.

Before Nicholas was born, my prayer was that during the birth I would accept what God would have for me in terms of the birth. I tend to have difficult births and realized that often during birth I am not happily willing to go through what God has ordained for me, rather I often wonder why it must be so hard and am not content with my lot.

Nicholas’ birth was one of my most difficult (6 hours of confirmed transition), but it was also different. I felt God’s presence and peace more clearly than before. I KNEW that each contraction was sent from God for my good and for His glory and I was able to accept (almost) each one with contentment. I was learning to trust that God knew best, or so I thought.

After the birth we learned that Nicholas’ right arm had been broken and his left paralyzed.  As we realized the extent of Nick’s injuries I began to rebel, I wanted to be angry, to blame someone. “Why did this have to happen to my baby,” I thought.  All the while arguing with myself that it is ONLY his arm, other families deal with much, much worse, but “this is hard”, I argued back, “I don’t want him to have surgery or be handicapped”, and then the other side would remember, ” you have eight healthy children.  Who do you think you are? You,  have earned death and hell and have been pardoned and blessed beyond measure, how dare you be dissatisfied with God’s plan for this baby.”

And then it dawned on me I was not learning, I didn’t want to learn to accept God’s good providence. I was fighting against God’s plan for us. As I began to accept that this was part of who God wanted Nicholas to be and as I learned to view Nick’s injury as part of God’s plan, I realized that it was for me also, to help teach me to rest in my loving Savior.

God has been gracious to Nicholas and to his mommy. He has had an amazing recovery. Most of the experts expect him to have minimal, if any, long term affects. So here we are reminded again of God’s mercy to us, humbled that we so quickly forget , and going back to therapy to make sure Nicholas is still on the right path.

Nicholas’ progress at 2 years

Facebook0Pinterest0EmailTwitter0

7 Responses to In Which We Think About Erb’s Palsy, Again
  1. angelia
    March 18, 2009 | 11:17 pm

    is there a yahoo feed or am i just overlooking it? thanks, and much love, angelia

    [Reply]

  2. Kimberly
    March 19, 2009 | 12:27 am

    Hi Angelia,

    Is the RSS feed not the same or used the same as a Yahoo feed? Sorry for my ignorance, I’m very new at this. I’m not sure how to add a Yahoo feed, but if the RSS doesn’t work for you, please let me know. I do have some friends who are much more tech savy than I am and they will be able to help me add it if you want it. Oh, the RSS is the top right, but you probably saw that. Please let me know!

    Blessings,
    Kimberly

    [Reply]

  3. Mandy
    March 19, 2009 | 12:34 pm

    What a great post. Thanks for sharing a Biblical perspective on trials. So important…even more in today’s world.

    [Reply]

  4. Jamie
    March 19, 2009 | 6:03 pm

    This was very encouraging to me as we have to make decisions regarding the birth of the next baby. Still not sure of what route to take, but your words are encouraging. Thanks, Kimberly!

    [Reply]

    Kimberly Reply:

    Jamie,
    Good to hear from you. I hope your BPI baby is doing well?

    Congratulations!I will be praying for you as you face the upcoming decisions .

    [Reply]

  5. amy
    March 26, 2009 | 4:13 pm

    I have a 6yr. old daughter with erb’s most people can’t tell. She had surgery at 3yrs. helped alot. I agree if one little arm is all that is wrong we are way more fortunate than lots of parents. She can do whatever she wants maybe not as well or as pretty as others. But that is just her.I still believe she is totally healed I can’t see it with my natural eye yet, but I believe.

    [Reply]

  6. Pregnancy Dreams | Raising Olives
    April 30, 2010 | 8:26 am

    [...] I had my first one.  The baby came so quickly, there was no pain or even discomfort, no fear of Erb’s Palsy.  It wasn’t until after I was holding our beautiful little girl that I even thought about [...]

Leave a Reply

Trackback URL http://raisingolives.com/2009/03/in-which-we-think-about-erbs-palsy-again/trackback/