Since I have started this blog I have received several questions through comments or emails. I’m behind on getting all those questions answered. So here is an attempt to answer some of your questions, with the understanding that I will answer some of them in more depth later.
Stacey asked, “Do you have any great tips for teaching children how to act calmly and be well behaved in public?”
- I’m not sure about great, but here are some of my thoughts.
- We give our children specific requirements. For example the smaller ones are required to have one hand on the shopping cart and during church services they are to keep their hands folded in their laps. This is concrete for our little ones to understand as opposed to “don’t run around being wild” and helps them to know what is compliance and what is disobedience. We brief them while we are in the car about what we will expect of them and what the consequences will be. Then we do what we say.
- We include our children in our daily lives as much as possible. Our children have always come to nearly all of my OB visits with me. (Back before our homebirthing days.) We all go shopping together and they sit with us during Sunday school and church each week. This gives the children plenty of time to practice good behavior and it also gives us time to enjoy being with our children.
- Each of our older children have a younger child that they help during our outings. They hold hands, help them in and out of the car, tell them stories and give piggy back rides. This is beneficial for both the older child and the child. Just think about what each of them are learning.
Another reader wondered about getting her children to obey while remaining nice and loving.
- Love and kindness must be defined by God’s Word not by our feelings, emotions, or the current popular psychologist. God clearly tell us in His Word “He who withholds his rod hates his son, But he who loves him disciplines him diligently.” Proverbs 13:24
- Did you read that first verse? Many parents believe that it is unloving to use the rod, but God declares that if you do not use the rod you hate your child. Who is our authority?
- If you discipline in a Biblical manner (consistently, lovingly, with instruction and repentance) God promises that foolishness will be driven out (Prov. 22:15) and disobedience is foolishness. I hear so many people say that they tried the rod, but it just didn’t work with their child. Well, God says that it will work! Who is our authority?
- There is only one book that Mark and I have ever recommended outside of the Bible on child training. Shepherding a Child’s Heart gives you a practical application of what the Bible teaches about child training. It explains why me must instruct, chastise and expect repentance each and every time our children disobey (sin) and why all three steps are Biblical and necessary. It also explains why many forms of “modern discipline” violate Biblical principles.
Sarah wondered, “What type of journal do you use for the children’s nature journals?”
- We use black spiral bound sketch books. We found ours at a local art store, but these look identical. We use a large size for the big kids and a smaller size for younger children. Don’t forget that the Handbook of Nature Study is available free online.
Jama wants to know about some of our kids favorite books.
- You can read about some of our favorite resources on China. Here are some others that we are reading/have read recently that we thought were excellent. Man of the Family and others by Ralph Moody, Five Little Peppers and How They Grew and the other Pepper books. Sadako and the Thousand Paper Cranes a beautiful and sad story about the consequences of the atomic bomb dropped on Hiroshima. Several of our children have read this several times in the last couple of months!
- I recently blogged about the Ballantyne and Elsie Dinsmore series. Our older children (8 and up) also enjoy the Henty books.
- I will plan on posting some more recommendations later, maybe even create a page so that they can be found easily.
Several of you have requested recipes from our bulk cooking. I am planning on posting those when I get my hands on them. The recipes are all in a computer program on someone else’s computer. I have made a request and will hopefully have them and post them soon. Just to whet your appetite, we had an amazing supper of Rigatoni last night and a couple fabulous calzone recipes.
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