Comments on: Titus 2: Who’s Qualified?

By: Raising Olives

Raising Olives — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 07:15:18 +0000

Thank you for sharing your sweet experience and your wonderful friend. She sounds like the perfect Titus 2 lady. I pray that God will raise up more women like her!

By: tereza crump AKA MyTreasuredCreations

tereza crump AKA MyTreasuredCreations — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 07:58:04 +0000

There is an older lady (a grandmother who is also a widow) in our church that she always knows what is happening with everyone. She is the one that sends the cards, brings in some food, goes visiting at the hospital and approaches the newcomers. She approached me some years ago when I only had my first daughter (we are currently baking #4)and she has been a friend ever since. At first she didn’t stay long, and would come and drop off a desert dish and leave quickly. Since I am from South America I am used to people dropping in without notice and staying and visiting, so I thought it was very strange that she wouldn’t stay. I learned that it’s part of the cultural way of being American and not wanting to intrude. Little by little, we have become friends and she invites me and the children to her house often, showers my babies with gifts and me with her sweet conversation. I really enjoy her. Sometimes when we meet I feel like a thirsty drinker coming to a well. I try to remind myself to go easy on the questions and issues. LOL She is a joy and she is so needed. Everyone in church loves her.

By: Raising Olives

Raising Olives — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 22:45:36 +0000

We’ve been blessed to be in such good churches with such amazing families, that I think sometimes I take that for granted.

I agree with you, that it is not necessary for a Titus 2 woman to be in the grand parenting years. I just think that sometimes those in that age group are overlooked in preference for younger women and I don’t think that should be either.

By: Raising Olives

Raising Olives — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 22:42:53 +0000

Thanks Rachel. Now’s the time to get closer to those older women, what a wealth of knowledge we have around us.

By: Raising Olives

Raising Olives — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 22:41:44 +0000

You’re right, prioritize. It’s so easy to get pulled away from what is important.

Congrats on your nomination!

By: Amy

Amy — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 23:56:45 +0000

Great post!

By: abba12

abba12 — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 22:58:28 +0000

For me at least, finding that last part is the hard bit.

teaching what is good – This is defined for us in the next verses. They should teach younger women to love their husbands and children, be sensible and pure, be kind, be a worker at home and to be subject to their own husband.

I grew up in churches where being ‘subject to ones own husband’ really didn’t happen for most, and it’s still something I’m struggling to understand as I’ve never seen it practised myself. Gossip and other such things were common among the women, and the few older women that didn’t fit these categories felt that the youth of the church was leading the church down a bad path (a fact that was actually true) and weren’t exactly there to mentor the women. Our youth pastor, a young woman who still lived at home and had never had a boyfriend or a job outside the church, was their role model, though many of us ‘outgrew’ her guidance quite fast as we began to live things she hadn’t.

I’ve moved to a new church and I’m very hopeful of finding some friends in the older age groups there. Though I don’t think a Titus 2 woman necessarily needs to be in grand-parenting years, as long as they have the time to take out for you. Anyone further down our own path can teach many useful things. a woman with children 6 and under can be invaluable to someone holding their first newborn.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 18:30:08 +0000

Such a greast post! I wish I were closer to the older women in our church!

By: Vicki

Vicki — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 18:05:51 +0000

Excellent post.

By: Heather

Heather — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 17:31:37 +0000

My husband always asks, “Who are you mentoring? and Who is mentoring you?” We are always older, and farther down the path than someone, and there is always someone further than us down the road. God does not leave us on our own. Sometimes I have 3-4 godly women I am learning from at a time- with different focus’, etc.

By: thesleepyknitter

thesleepyknitter — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 16:00:20 +0000

Thank you for your good comments, here! What you’ve said seems reasonable and wise. Thank you for making the time and effort to share through your blog. –Sleepy, an older mom of a younger child

By: Gapgirl

Gapgirl — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 15:40:15 +0000

Great post, once again….

By: HomeGrownMommy

HomeGrownMommy — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 15:16:51 +0000

I also would love to mentor other ladies and help them along in their journey – but I often get pulled back by my family obligations, which are of course my priority right now. I am finally learning one of the points you mentioned in this article – moms with kids that are still homeschooling are probably not the best choice to lead such a group, much as we might really really want to. I am realizing that, at this season in my life, homeschooling and raising my little ones is my priority and once I go all the way through this thing, I’ll have even more experience to offer another family!

By the way, CONGRATULATIONS on your nominations! I was also nominated for Best New Blog and am so honored to be in the same category alongside your wonderful blog!!