Your Child’s Heart: How do you Find the Time? Part 2

4 Moms, 35 Kids will be talking about menu planning and budgeting for food this Thursday.

This is simply a continuation, so if you haven’t read Your Child’s Heart: How do you Find the Time? Part I, please do so to understand the context.

Having a priority of building strong, solid relationships with your children will affect your decisions in regard to education and curriculum choices as well as activities outside of the home. An obvious and practical way to spend more quality and quantity time with your children is choosing to homeschool.

I realize that this is obvious. If you stay at home and take a daily, active roll in teaching your children reading (so they are able to read God’s Word), writing (so they are able to communicate God’s truth to others), history (so they know how God has dealt with His people throughout time), math (so they realize that God is a God of order and logic), science (so they are amazed at God’s majesty and power), etc. then you will be spending more quality and quantity time making disciples of your children than you would if you delegated that responsibility to someone else.

When I was 11 God allowed my mother to be diagnosed with cancer and given 6 months to live. It was one of the best things that God did for our family. Through my mother’s cancer my parents began to homeschool us. This decision dramatically changed our family for the BEST in more ways that I can articulate and probably in more ways than I even know.

Don’t get me wrong, we were a strong family that loved the Lord before we began homeschooling. My father was a pastor and strove to obey God in all aspects of His life. We children were attending a small, solid Christian school and my parents were spending time each day teaching and instructing us in the ways of the Lord. I had made a personal profession of faith as had my younger brother (9) and sister (7). (We also had a 2 year old brother and my mom was pregnant.) All this merely to point out that God did not use homeschooling to change an apostate family that was broken and heading for trouble into a solid family who loved the Lord. The changes were more subtle than that, but not any less drastic.

Our family grew much closer to each other and as a result we were more ready and strong to stand together against a declining culture even when it seemed that we were the only ones. As children, we learned to respect and turn to my parents for advice and wisdom in a deeper way. We also became more confident in following God even when it went against popular opinion. I still see that in my siblings now that we are adults. None of us have taken the wide and easy path, we are all passionate about following the Lord and serving Him where He has called us and so long as we are serving God it doesn’t much matter what others think. One interesting note: All of us who have children have chosen to homeschool and the others hope to in the future.

The true blessing of homeschooling is not measured in academics (although homeschool students do perform well academically), but in family.

However, homeschooling alone will not automatically build the relationships that we are seeking. We must make purposeful decisions about how we homeschool with the focus on obeying God by making disciples and building relationships.

If each morning you give your child a list of assignments to complete and they go off, complete the assignments and bring them to you to check OR if you are running this child to Latin class, that child to violin, then the first child is off to a history class and child number three needs to be taken to a speech then there is not much more quality and quantity time spent with your child than if you dropped them off at school in the morning and helped them with their homework in the evening.

I’m NOT saying that sending your child to Christian school or homeschooling in one of these ways is wrong. Simply that if you make these choices you must work harder and more diligently to find time with your children to build these relationships. God has given the responsibility to educate to you and these are your decisions to make. I AM saying that I think homeschooling offers so much more than giving your child a stack of textbooks or running them to 10 – 15 classes each week.

Consider choosing a homeschool curriculum or developing one that allows you to directly teach your children. (Deuteronomy 6:4-9). Consider choosing something that allows children of various ages and various levels to be learning the same things (at different depths) and working on the same projects (at varying levels of skill) and consider using discussion as one of the main methods of checking comprehension and application. These things will all help build relationships and enable you to be actively involved in making disciples of your children throughout the educational day. This method of home education gives you an amazing opportunity of getting to know your children, where their strengths lie and whether or not you have their heart.

Homeschooling in a manner that is focused on building relationships and making disciples can be an excellent way to spend quality and quantity time with your children.

I’ve done a series of post about how we homeschool . I’m not sure that it’s finished so if you have questions or would like me to post about a different aspect, please feel free to leave a comment and let me know.

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9 Responses to Your Child’s Heart: How do you Find the Time? Part 2
  1. Anita Chamblee
    March 30, 2010 | 9:56 am

    Great post as usual! I particularly agreed with the paragraph pertaining to choosing a curriculum that keeps the family together. That has always been one of my goals. It really helps bring a cohesiveness to the family and makes for lots of fun as well!! I am always amazed at the numbers of homeschooling moms who don’t actually teach their children themselves. So much of our day-to-day training takes place in the discussions and projects that relate to our topic of study or in our homesteading projects.


    Kimberly @ Raising Olives Reply:

    Agreed. While there is nothing wrong with parents choosing a different style of homeschooling, they certainly miss out on what I perceive to be some of the most beneficial aspects of homeschooling.

    I think this is a relatively new concept to most homeschoolers, many have never heard of it and aren’t sure how it will work. However as people become exposed to these ideas more and more are choosing this type of family-together education and are reaping the rewards.

    I can honestly say that in 13 years of homeschooling my children I have never experienced “burn-out” when I’ve been allowed to choose the programs and curricula that fit with our family goals. I love homeschooling and look forward to learning with and teaching my children.

    By the way, thank you so much for your tip to “have them narrate on paper”. That is exactly what I needed (and they needed) to hear. The kids are writing wonderfully organized and creative papers nearly everyday. Thank you for sharing your homeschool experience and helping our family along our path!


    Jul Reply:

    hi:) is there a link to this recommendation for narration on paper? i’m doing a version of that now, or trying to, but would love others’ thoughts and ideas and see how that’s working out, if possible… thanks!
    oh – and, i just want to say thanks again. i don’t follow any other blogs at all – simply no time. but i’m always so sharpened by what you write that whenever i’m able to scrape together time, it’s so worth it. it ends up being so applicable, and helps me not have to re-invent the wheel for every area of our life. i have felt like such a trailblazer in my world (unwillingly so, sometimes) that it is so comforting to sense someone else on the same wavelength. He doesn’t promise that it will be easy, nor that i will meet like-minded people on the road, but i sure do appreciate it when it comes. blessings on you!


  2. Tara McClenahan
    March 30, 2010 | 10:09 am

    You have hit the nail squarely on the head on why I desire to homeschool! Such a refreshing and affirming post! Thank you!!


  3. Becky Lee
    March 30, 2010 | 8:36 pm

    Hi! I just love your blog! Thanks for sharing so much! I have 12 children. 8 are bio and 4 are adopted recently from Ethiopia. I am really struggling on how to manage our schooling together with so many on different levels of learning. Wondering if we can chat by e-mail when you have time. Blessings!



    Kimberly @ Raising Olives Reply:

    I’m looking forward to chatting with you. Schooling together has been an amazing blessing for our family and I love to share how God has blessed us through it.


  4. Jama
    March 31, 2010 | 6:10 pm

    Great post and very timely. As my oldest will be entering high school next year, the outside classes are SO tempting. I feel woefully inadequate in so many areas. Thanks for reminding me that it’s not all about acedemics.


    Kimberly @ Raising Olives Reply:

    I’m going to be watching you and asking for advice. Amber will officially be in high school in 2011, so I still have a year to prepare.


  5. Tara Tafoya
    November 10, 2012 | 4:34 pm

    Hi, im about to have my 4th child which sounds so little compared to how much you have going on 🙂 anyways, im trullt thinking about homeschooling my children but I feel so lost and a bit scared. I do not even know where to begun or what to do. My oldest is only 6 and in the first grade then a 2 yr old, 3 month old, and one on the way. Do you have any advice or suggestions for honeschooling and just some general advice. Thank you for all your post. I love reading all your posts. Tara


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