How to NOT Get Your Comment Published

As a blogger, I appreciate receiving comments.  (In the blog world, comments = love.)  They let me know that I’m not just talking to myself and that you care about what I’m saying.   However there are some things that will cause me to delete a comment.

Your comment may be deleted if:

  • you use bad language
  • your tone is unkind
  • you complain that I refer to God too much or that I base my arguments on the Bible. – If that displeases you then you are simply at the wrong internet address.
  • you call me, my readers or our kids names
  • your comment criticizes opinions you think that we hold, actions you think we’ve taken (or have not taken) or thoughts you think we think.  (Edited to remove link at the request of the commenter)

A couple other notes about comments.

If your comment respectfully raises issues or questions (i.e. this abortion discussion) that I don’t have time to address at the moment, I will generally hold your comment in moderation until I’m able to respond.

I enjoy ‘talking’ with you in the comment section, however, I’m sometimes a bit slow in responding to questions.  If it’s been over a week, feel free to ask again.

Thank you to those who take the time to comment, I look forward to ‘talking’ with you more.

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23 Responses to How to NOT Get Your Comment Published
  1. L2L
    August 23, 2010 | 8:31 am

    yikes!!! i think i just became very thankful for my spam post, lol. I posted something on a “friend’s” blog once and got a very negative response from the rest of her readers. I was not meaning to be disrespectful about the post rather share a difference of opinion. I contacted her and made sure she knew my intent and she did but I quickly decided to make my posts positive and if I had a difference of opinion I would address those on my own blog and not in the comments of another blog. What a great way to set boundaries and stand firm in what you believe!!!

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  2. Kathi
    August 23, 2010 | 8:40 am

    I’ve told you before, but your responses to your comments are (almost) my favorite!

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  3. Jama
    August 23, 2010 | 8:44 am

    Wise words my friend. I commend you for being able to hit the “delete” key on comments you know only seek to stir up strife. Thank you for being able to speak the truth in love, your humble spirit and your desire to teach/share with others. You are a blessing to so many.

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  4. Judy
    August 23, 2010 | 8:54 am

    I hate to see others blast people’s blogs. It makes me always wonder why they come and read (and keep coming back) if it isn’t something they agree with (like tell you you talk about God too much). Good for you for taking a stand. : )

    Another blog I am reading has recently come under attack too. This family has a VERY sick daughter who they have almost lost on a few occasions and people have actually been so nasty that the mother is totally broken hearted. People are questioning her motivates and her mothering ability. Like she needs that right now.

    I think people have forgot what mom use to say “if you don’t have something nice to say, then don’t say anything!”

    Keep up the great work on your blog. I am enjoying it.

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  5. GapGirl
    August 23, 2010 | 9:03 am

    its a shame you even had to “remind” people of this… name calling?? foul language??? They are def at the wrong internet address!!!

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  6. Nicki
    August 23, 2010 | 9:25 am

    Wow! Good answers!

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  7. Annie @ Beauty In The Surrender
    August 23, 2010 | 10:47 am

    I agree. I have been reading your blog for almost a year and have gleaned so much from you and others. I appreciate the truth you speak in love and if there was ever something I didn’t agree with and felt compelled to voice it I would do it respectfully and with grace.
    It’s a shame that others can’t do the same.

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  8. Courtney
    August 23, 2010 | 10:49 am

    That is so sad that you have to remind people to be kind. If they don’t like your blog, then they shouldn’t be reading it. It’s yours, you can publish whatever you like. I so happen to love everything you publish. Keep up the good work.

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  9. Lauree
    August 23, 2010 | 11:12 am

    That has got to be the lowest form of whatever-not to be disrespectful. But really? That mom needs encouragement not nastiness. I’m so sorry for her!

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    Lauree Reply:

    well, I posted that in the wrong place-should be in response to Judy’s post. :)

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  10. Lauree
    August 23, 2010 | 11:15 am

    And then in response to your post, I love the way you handled it. I have followed you for at least a year and have enjoyed your blog. I had never heard of these types of “attacks” before I started following a couple of blogs like this. Keep up the great work!

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  11. Crystal & Co
    August 23, 2010 | 12:11 pm

    I am thinking you are one good momma! I see it in this post (As well as all the other stuff I read on your blog, of course.)

    Way to set the tone and boundries with authority and compassion. Love it!

    Inspiring!

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  12. Beth
    August 23, 2010 | 1:31 pm

    Kim, just wanted to say thank you for being willing to put yourself out there in the spirit of Titus 2, even at the risk of being unfairly criticized. I appreciate the effort you put into your blog in order to encourage others. I have been encouraged many times in the year or so that I’ve been following your blog. Thanks!

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  13. Suzanne
    August 23, 2010 | 2:09 pm

    Thank you for posting this. I am sad for you at whatever prompted you to have to post it. I chose to cut off all responses to a You-tube video of my 2 year old saying the Lord’s Prayer because of the horrible comment someone left. I deleted the comment, and forgave them, but even 4 years later to remember the comment still hurts. It really made reconsider sharing my family on the internet with the whole free world. I really appreciate you venturing to share your life with us and taking time from your family to help us with ideas for ours.

    I could only hope people will realize that bloggers are people too.

    Blessings,
    Suzanne

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  14. Jamie
    August 23, 2010 | 3:37 pm

    AIAIAI! Wow, Kimberly, that’s crazy! Glad you are confident enough to hit delete :).

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  15. Vickie
    August 23, 2010 | 4:06 pm

    WOW! I’ve been reading your blog for a little while too and I do love coming here to visit. I went back and read the comments you mentioned in this post and I have to say….why in the world would anyone take something so far out of context? I mean really! But HUGS to you for your strong replys back to her. I, too, have had to defend myself to others for their having taken things out of context. The conclusion I’ve come to is…they have a guilty conscience and you/me just hit the nail on the head for them to get so defensive. Keep up the good work and words. You have been so very blessed to have a way with words as you do. God’s Blessings

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  16. patty r.
    August 23, 2010 | 4:26 pm

    Kim,

    I want you to know that i love your site and am so proud of the godly way in which you handled that “misunderstanding”. I have only been coming to your site for a couple of months now, and have gleaned so much in that time! I love the tone of your posts and the fact that they are real, that they are coming from SOMEONE who IS REAL, and doesn’t pretend to be someone they are not. you are a great encouragement to me and i am honored to know you, even if it is just though the blogosphere!!
    blessings,
    ~patty r.

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  17. Phyllis
    August 23, 2010 | 6:23 pm

    Amazing that you would have to write these obvious statements. I think that people find it a lot easier to type negative and inappropriate things than it would be to actually say them to a person’s face. Bless you for continuing to blog despite such experiences. We appreciate it.

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  18. Jenny
    August 23, 2010 | 9:17 pm

    Hey Kimberly- so happy to see Savanah’s doing well! And I’m thrilled to see your blog is still here- curious why you thought it was deleted the other day!!! Started homeschooling today- scared me and thrilled me to death all at the same time ;-) Thanks again for your help!!!

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    Kimberly @ Raising Olives Reply:

    Hi Jenny. The blog thing was a glitch with my host. For some reason none of my posts or pages were anywhere to be found. Or rather, anywhere that I could find them. I was able to call my hosting service and they were able to fix it easily.

    Hope that homeschooling is a much of a blessing to your family as it has been to ours.

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  19. Cindy
    August 24, 2010 | 8:15 am

    In my experience, every time some person from the public school system attacks a homeschooler it is because Jesus is working in their lives and they are feeling convictions..I have seen it again and again…they get almost irrate with their supposed views and before long they have switched to homeschooling…we will just have to pray for Christie and how she maybe didn’t mean to come across. I love your blog and all the comments and even if I don’t always agree with what was written I appreciate your view anyway…makes me think why I believe what I do or don’t. thanks.

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  20. jennifer
    August 24, 2010 | 5:32 pm

    Bad names? You are a Christian, Stay at home mom with more than 2.6 children. In todays world that’s a put down!!!Haha! Thanks so much for being an inspiration to me and my 2.6 children. We have loved your blog and are sorry that many of the ones we love are always commented on by people who want to complain, fight, or argue. Keep on keeping on!

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  21. Heidi Wilson
    August 28, 2010 | 6:44 am

    Hi!
    So sorry that you have been a victim of the horrible comments as well – I have friend who blogs beautifully but routinely has people leaving bad comments and it just breaks her heart.

    I commend you for your trust in keeping your blog public – I have two blogs both of which are private but that is primarily because I couldn’t control people (mainly my own family) from passing the address around.

    I stumbled across your blog when I was doing some research on home schooling (I shall be home schooling in another 18 months or so when my son turns 6 though the learning has really already begun) and I am inspired and encouraged by your site.

    Thanks so much,
    Heidi

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