We believe that the primary and ultimate responsibility for the family, including the education of children, falls on the shoulders of the father. So should the father do all the planning, preparing and teaching in a homeschool?
God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.” Then God created the woman. We were designed and created to help our husbands fulfill their calling. God has created the perfect team for the education of children, a dad and a mom.
When it comes to home education, it’s important for us to remember our role. The responsibility for our children’s education belongs to our husbands. Our role is to help them in whatever manner they describe. We should desire, encourage and appreciate their input and cheerfully fulfill the tasks that they delegate to us.
How this looks in individual homes will look as differently as each individual and how my husband wishes for me to help him will be different from how your husband wishes for you to help him.
Some ways to support and encourage our husbands in their educational role:
- Respect his advice and ideas and implement them.
- Don’t act as if you know more about your children or their ideal education than he does.
- Respectfully share your thoughts and ideas.
- Don’t take responsibility in an area that he has not specifically designated as yours.
- Cheerfully take responsibility where he gives it to you.
- Ask for his input, advice and help, if needed. (I frequently need Mark to help me with balance and the focus of our kid’s education.)
- Have the house running smoothly so that he has time to spend with the children.
- Guard your husband’s time with your children. (Don’t over-schedule or over-commit.)
- Follow his lead, adhere to his wishes and express your respect and appreciation of him.
- Don’t expect him to home educate the same way that (fill in the blank) home educates. God gave your children the man who is best equipped to educate them.
For those who are interested, here is an inside peek into Mark’s role in our homeschool. This is what works in our home, for our personalities and with our schedule. Your home and your husband will (and should) be different.
While Mark has specifically delegated much of the routine academic instruction to me, he is vitally involved in the planning process and book and curriculum selections.
Mark and I discuss and he decides what subjects and topics he wants our children to focus on and learn. I’m the designated book/curricula researcher (a role I particularly enjoy). Then I lay out my findings with the pros and cons and Mark decides what we should use.
Mark also handles most of the formal Bible and character instruction and is the math teacher. When I was finishing high school my main goal in taking the SAT and the ACT was to test out of college math, so I’m particularly indebted to my husband for allowing me to avoid grading math papers. (I actually enjoy math as an adult, but I found my high school math program to be tedious and vowed not to use it with our kids 🙂 .)
Mark’s role in our children’s ‘formal’ education:
- If Mark is home, he handles all character and discipline issues with the children.
- Before breakfast and his shower, Mark works with our non-readers helping them memorize the Catechism for Young Children.
- At breakfast Mark reads and discusses a character/Bible study book with our children and reads a Proverb. This doesn’t happen everyday as sometimes he has appointments earlier than 7:30. (He is currently working through Making Brothers and Sisters Best Friends for the second time.)
- Mark teaches, grades and answers math questions, as needed, after work.
- During dinner Mark discusses with the children what was studied during the day and adds his thoughts and ideas to the days topics. He also usually sneaks in some narration practice for at least a couple of the children. (For those with large families, do you have any hints for getting in more narration practice?)
- After dinner Mark leads us in family worship.
- After the younger children go to bed, Mark is reading through some biographies/autobiographies of godly men and discussing them with our older children.
I find great freedom and peace in following Mark’s vision and purpose in our children’s education as I take the responsibility that Mark has delegated to me.
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