For the next four weeks the 4 Moms (or rather 5 Moms, thanks to the addition of Large Family Logistics author, Kim Brenneman) will be covering some of our favorite topics and ideas in LFL. (You can still get 40% off Large Family Logistics by using promo code 4MOMS at Vision Forum through today.) This week we’re posting about the first seventeen chapters, the foundational chapters of the book.
As I read through LFL again, the idea that struck me is the idea of goals, having family goals.
For many years, Mark and I have had some basic family goals, but Kim suggests setting goals in several different areas:
- Community outreach
Mark and I had never sat down and set goals in all of these areas. We have our big picture goal and we have many other goals that fit in some of these categories (i.e. be ‘given to hospitality’ by regularly having people in our home, eat whole foods by cooking from scratch), but by having these things clearly defined as to what our ultimate goals are (what we’re working toward) will help us more effectively order our days so that we are making progress and it will help answer some of the questions that I often struggle with (i.e. Is the blog an important part of our family’s ministry? How much school/family time are we willing to give up in order to be invested in the lives of those around us?)
Here are a couple of our big goals and some of our baby step goals on which we are currently working.
After we set specific goals Kim brings out the point that progress toward these goals is impossible without self-discipline.
Getting from goal to execution requires self-discipline. Self-discipline is making yourself do something that you don’t want to presently do. John MacArthur says it this way, “Biblically, self-discipline may be summarized in one word: obedience.” Our sin nautre groans at this thought! It is so easy to give in to the flesh and do what it wants to do right now.
Oh, how true this is. How can I expect my children to diligently tackle the tasks that they are assigned if I’m not diligently tackling the tasks which are my responsibility? How can I expect to make progress toward a family, a life that reflects God to a fallen world if I refuse to start with the simple obedience of cleaning the dishes, making the bed or patiently dealing with my children every. time. ?
I have often prayed, “Lord, please work mightily through my life. Help me to serve you with everything that you have given to me.” I’ve told God that I’m willing to serve Him in Africa, I’m willing to adopt, willing to give what I’ve been given. I’ve begged that He will use me for His honor and His glory and then I’ve gotten up off my knees and I have failed at laundry, at loving my children and at having dinner ready when Mark gets home. Why is it that I think I’m so willing to give my all for Christ and yet I’m not willing to give Him each minute of every day?
Of course the measure of our success isn’t necessarily that the laundry is finished and dinner is on the table. As a matter of fact, that could be an indication that we’ve failed in our primary task of loving and caring for our children. That is what makes this life of motherhood so difficult, so challenging and so blessed. It’s all about accomplishing daily tasks in a way that clearly demonstrates that those tasks are always secondary to the people for whom we are accomplishing the tasks.
And this too, takes self-discipline.
Diligence, self-discipline begins with fixing our eyes upon Jesus the author and finisher of our faith. Realizing that I’m washing dishes, reading stories, teaching math and doing laundry for Jesus, because He gave Himself for me. I am no longer my own, I have been bought with a price and I no longer have the ‘freedom’ to serve self, I must now serve Him.
Now it’s your turn. What did you learn in the beginning chapters of Large Family Logistics. If you don’t have a blog I’d love to hear from you in the comments.
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