Laying the Foundation: 4 Moms and Large Family Logistics

For the next four weeks the 4 Moms (or rather 5 Moms, thanks to the addition of Large Family Logistics author, Kim Brenneman) will be covering some of our favorite topics and ideas in LFL. (You can still get 40% off Large Family Logistics by using promo code 4MOMS at Vision Forum through today.)moms of many manage This week we’re posting about  the first seventeen chapters, the foundational chapters of the book.

As I read through LFL again, the idea that struck me is the idea of goals, having family goals.

For many years, Mark and I have had some basic family goals, but Kim suggests setting goals in several different areas:

  • Personal
  • Family
  • Spiritual
  • Home
  • Community outreach
  • Educational
  • Physical
  • Recreational
  • Financial

Mark and I had never sat down and set goals in all of these areas. We have our big picture goal and we have many other goals that fit in some of these categories (i.e. be ‘given to hospitality’ by regularly having people in our home, eat whole foods by cooking from scratch), but by having these things clearly defined as to what our ultimate goals are (what we’re working toward) will help us more effectively order our days so that we are making progress and it will help answer some of the questions that I often struggle with (i.e. Is the blog an important part of our family’s ministry? How much school/family time are we willing to give up in order to be invested in the lives of those around us?)

Here are a couple of our big goals and some of our baby step goals on which we are currently working.

Physical:

Big goal: Healthy weight and exercise level in order to have enough energy to accomplish the tasks that God has given to us (even when we don’t get enough sleep).
Baby steps: No processed foods. (Baked goods, oils, salad dressings, condiments, etc.)
Exercise 30 minutes a day 3-5 times a week. (currently running for Mark, me and the kids)
Drink fresh fruit and/or vegetable juice 2 times a day.
Increase fermented foods.
Spiritual:
Big goal: Know God and love Him with our heart, soul, mind and strength and love our neighbor as ourselves.
Baby steps: Continue to read the Bible four times a year.
Finish memorizing half the book of Psalms with the children.
Pray that God will help me to pray more.
Pray more and pray on my knees.
Pray about everything. Pray about things that I think I already know the answer to. Pray for wisdom to know all that I should be praying about.
Believe and act like I believe that God answers prayer.
and more.

After we set specific goals Kim brings out the point that progress toward these goals is impossible without self-discipline.

Getting from goal to execution requires self-discipline. Self-discipline is making yourself do something that you don’t want to presently do. John MacArthur says it this way, “Biblically, self-discipline may be summarized in one word: obedience.” Our sin nautre groans at this thought! It is so easy to give in to the flesh and do what it wants to do right now.

Oh, how true this is. How can I expect my children to diligently tackle the tasks that they are assigned if I’m not diligently tackling the tasks which are my responsibility? How can I expect to make progress toward a family, a life that reflects God to a fallen world if I refuse to start with the simple obedience of cleaning the dishes, making the bed or patiently dealing with my children every. time. ?

I have often prayed, “Lord, please work mightily through my life. Help me to serve you with everything that you have given to me.” I’ve told God that I’m willing to serve Him in Africa, I’m willing to adopt, willing to give what I’ve been given. I’ve begged that He will use me for His honor and His glory and then I’ve gotten up off my knees and I have failed at laundry, at loving my children and at having dinner ready when Mark gets home. Why is it that I think I’m so willing to give my all for Christ and yet I’m not willing to give Him each minute of every day?

Of course the measure of our success isn’t necessarily that the laundry is finished and dinner is on the table. As a matter of fact, that could be an indication that we’ve failed in our primary task of loving and caring for our children. That is what makes this life of motherhood so difficult, so challenging and so blessed. It’s all about accomplishing daily tasks in a way that clearly demonstrates that those tasks are always secondary to the people for whom we are accomplishing the tasks.

And this too, takes self-discipline.

Diligence, self-discipline begins with fixing our eyes upon Jesus the author and finisher of our faith. Realizing that I’m washing dishes, reading stories, teaching math and doing laundry for Jesus, because He gave Himself for me. I am no longer my own, I have been bought with a price and I no longer have the ‘freedom’ to serve self, I must now serve Him.

Now it’s your turn. What did you learn in the beginning chapters of Large Family Logistics. If you don’t have a blog I’d love to hear from you in the comments.

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8 Responses to Laying the Foundation: 4 Moms and Large Family Logistics
  1. sarah
    August 4, 2011 | 9:20 am

    great post kimberly….
    very thoughtfully written….
    I feel like I know you better through this post…
    plus makes me really want to get my hands on this book!

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  2. Kelley
    August 4, 2011 | 1:10 pm

    Great post full of so many truths! It’s funny…I feel more like a rebellious child now, in trying to obey and serve God at times (dishes! lol) then I did with my own parents when I was growing up! I sometimes get upset with my husband, or that I have to do the 3rd load of dishes for the day, and I KNOW I should submit/forgive/do it unto Him, and I’ll start to try…but sometimes I will just say “God, I KNOW I SHOULD do (insert thing here) but I just don’t WANT to.” I just want to be mad about it!

    I love the idea of setting goals as a family too. We also have goals, similar to what you initially had, but I never thought of making more specific goals.

    I hope I can get a copy of this soon. It sounds wonderful!

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    Kimberly @ Raising Olives Reply:

    Hi Kelley,

    I can so relate to the rebellious child feeling. Sometimes I even feel like I’m just stomping my foot and saying, “I don’t want to”. God is so good and gracious. I’m thankful He doesn’t give me what I deserve.

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  3. Jamie
    August 4, 2011 | 6:14 pm

    I LOVE this book :). I kind of panicked the first time I read through these foundational chapters. My mind was thinking, “but I don’t WANT to,” my body was screaming, “but I’m SO TIRED,” and my spirit was thinking “…well… phooey.” I also started thinking that THESE are the things that should be gone over in pre-marital counseling :).

    Jamie
    ps. how is Nick doing? Titus is doing well. Still in therapy and some issues are getting worse with growth spurts. We’ll see what happens once the growth spurt is over. He MAY regain what he lost. Time will tell.

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    Kimberly @ Raising Olives Reply:

    Nick is doing well. I find that if I’m not consistent with stretching him that we notice more of a difference in his arm, but honestly most of the time it’s difficult to tell he was ever injured.

    Strength is the biggest difference. (He punches like a girl) Does Titus do anything in therapy to specifically help with strength in that arm? If so it’s probably something I should try to incorporate with Nick.

    Thanks Jamie! We’re praying for Titus. When did he start having some worsening and with what issues? (wonder what I should be looking for)

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  4. Jamie
    August 8, 2011 | 7:35 am

    Oh, praise God for He is good. My husband and I sat down last night and worked through one goal for the two of us. It look longer than I thought, but for the first time we feel really good about getting in shape. Our goal is Christ centered and we are both excited about this new adventure together. I think he is encouraged by my interest that the Lord has laid on my heart. I was truely convicted about my eating habits and lack of exercise and how it has been affecting my walk with my Creator. I pray that He will enable me to fulfill my commitment to exercise and eat healthier. THank you for the encouragement you offer by your blog, the Lord has used you in my life to really search my heart and evaluate my life.

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    Kimberly @ Raising Olives Reply:

    Thank you Jamie, for taking the time to encourage me!

    We’re still getting through more of our goals, it is good to have a plan.

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  5. ali @ an ordinary mom
    September 1, 2011 | 8:26 am

    I think I need to read Kim’s book! :)

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