Pregnancy #11 Update: Week 18

Whew, that was the most difficult first trimester that I’ve experienced. I’m not sure if I did much rejoicing in the morning sickness, but our family did survive thanks to a terrific husband and very helpful older children who all happily pitched in.

I’ve been feeling great for the last 3 weeks and we definitely jumped back into life with both feet. We’ve had a house full of company nearly non-stop and are thankful for the fellowship of the saints and to be able to focus on others, instead of just focusing on surviving.

In the past three weeks, we’ve spent time visiting friends in the hospital, cleaning homes (including ours), taking meals to several families, watching extra children, lending girls to be momma’s helpers, hosting several get-togethers including a screening of IndoctriNation.

In God’s providence one of the men involved in making/promoting ‘IndoctriNation’ and one of the men who was featured in the film (Robert Ziegler) were visiting our church the morning of the ‘IndoctriNation’ screening and were able to come and answer questions for our group.

We also found made time to head to the ER in a lights flashing ambulance. (Thanks to a bike ride down the hill in our front yard that ended up in crashing into Isabella (20 months). The bike hit Bella’s head and she was knocked over and hit the other side of her head on our concrete drive. She was then unable to focus her eyes or walk and we couldn’t keep her awake. She ended up being fine with just a little scratch on her head.) We’re thankful that a sweet friend was willing to pack up her two small children and come sit with the additional 12 kids who remained at our home.

The kids have been outdoors nearly non-stop since the weather turned nice. We’re calling it ‘spring break’, although we’re still doing our everyday basics (Bible reading, Greek and a little math) and I’m encouraging them to write or complete nature journal pages about what they’re doing and learning.

They’ve found multiple bird’s nests (one in the WINTER wreath on our front door *rolls eyes*), lizards, tadpoles, etc. and our house is teaming with life.

We’ve planted a spring garden and started all of our summer garden veggies from seed. We are beginning to harvest some of our variety of lettuces and praying that God will provide buyers for our home so that we might be able to move to a place with a little more property.

I must say that once I get past that first trimester, my pregnancies are smooth sailing (except that I cry about nearly everything, happy or sad).

In mid-April we will have an ultrasound to make sure little one is developing normally. We will also find out the gender of the baby, unless we decide that we want it to be a surprise.

We’ve chosen to be surprised with 5 and we’ve found out the gender with 5.

Do/will you find out the gender of your baby?

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49 Responses to Pregnancy #11 Update: Week 18
  1. jay quiverfull families
    March 27, 2012 | 8:57 am

    That’s great news, Kimberly. Your site is looking great! I wish I had time to run with http://arrowcollectors.com but I’m too busy with business endeavors. We’re moving to Wilmington, NC and opening up another real estate office there. Wrightsville Beach is gorgeous.

    So far there is about 360 families in the large family directory but none are in the directory for where we are moving to ironically…. But this is why we need 1000s of families in the quiverfull directory so we can find each other easy when moving, etc. and fellowship.

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    Blair @ The Straightened Path Reply:

    Your site looks good and I would like to join. However, I can not find a place to create an account.

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  2. sarah
    March 27, 2012 | 9:01 am

    We have usually chosen to be surprised. I am currently pregnant with #4, and we didn’t find out the sex of this baby. The only child we did find out with was #3, but not until I was 37 weeks along. I had to go in for an ultrasound at that point (dr. was afraid I wasn’t gaining enough weight), so I had them just go ahead and tell us. I only had a couple week until delivery, and I wanted to know which clothes to get out. We didn’t tell anyone, though (not even our other kids), so everyone was surprised.

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  3. Sarah
    March 27, 2012 | 9:11 am

    I found out with my first 2 – a boy and then girl but the third we didn’t and I loved all the excitement of not knowing!!! my husband was sure we were having another boy but he was wrong. If I have anymore I won’t find out.

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  4. Blessed Mama
    March 27, 2012 | 9:23 am

    Our ‘tradition’ seems to be wait for the surprise with the odds (Babies #1, 3, 5) and find out with the evens (Babies #2 and 4) :)
    I like the surprise, Hubby (and children) like to know… so we take turns :)

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  5. alizabeth
    March 27, 2012 | 9:25 am

    We always find out…my husband does not like those types of suprises…:o)I wouldn’t mind not knowing, but I really don’t care either way…Glad you are over the first trimester….I am just starting that at 6 weeks…so far so good…We will be adding number 7 to our family in November…yeah! (that will also be 6 c-sections, praying that goes well!)

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  6. Amy
    March 27, 2012 | 9:26 am

    So glad you are feeling better! We have found out for all 4 of ours (boy,boy,boy,girl). I will probably find out again next time, but am considering trying what I have read somewhere: having the ultrasound tech write it down in an envelope and sealing it for you to find out when, where, and with whom you choose. Sounds like a fun, personal, twist.

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  7. AnneJisca
    March 27, 2012 | 9:31 am

    Our 1st was a surprise, and we found out for #2! I loved both ways, not sure what I’ll do next time I’m pregnant. :) Since we’re preparing to move to Africa as missionaries, it may not be an option to find out anyways! :)

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  8. Annie
    March 27, 2012 | 9:39 am

    Kim, thanks for the update on your pregnancy as well as the situation with your home. I have thought of you and your family and prayed for you all often :0)
    I will continue to lift up your home and the new baby!

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    Kimberly @ Raising Olives Reply:

    Thank you so very much for your prayers. It means so much to know that there are people we have never met praying for us.

    Honestly, when Isabella was born (first c-section), I could almost physically feel the effect of your prayers. As the anesthesiologist was preparing to put the needle in I was extremely nervous. And then I remembered about everyone who was praying for me, many who I had never met, and God’s peace flooded over me.

    Thank you!

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  9. Cheryl @Treasures from a Shoebox
    March 27, 2012 | 9:44 am

    With our last 4 (of 10 children), we have chosen not to find out the sex (even though our midwives have required ultrasound to check the location placenta, since I’ve had 4 previous c-sections). It feels like “sneaking a peek” that spoils the surprise on Christmas morn. :)

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  10. Cari Wiebe
    March 27, 2012 | 9:47 am

    We have NEVER found out what we were having. All 5 have been a surprise. But with this one we are hoping to find out what we are having. Guess what today will be the big day! I am so excited!

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  11. Shellee
    March 27, 2012 | 10:19 am

    Our first little girl was a surprise. With the remaining eight, we found out and it was correct each time, and I became quite proficient at recognizing gender on the ultrasound myself. Sometimes I would tell the tech before she would tell me! I was just so happy to see that little one, it didn’t spoil it for me at all! I enjoyed calling the baby by name in the womb, and it saved me energy to have the correct gender items gathered from storage.

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  12. hannah
    March 27, 2012 | 10:20 am

    first of all i love your blog…where i live, I have 3 children under 5 as of now and people look at me like Im crazy when I tell them Ill probably have at least one more. Its nice to see other mothers with lots of childre, so I dont feel alone :) Anyway…I am always so torn with this…I have found out with all three because I can’t wait…I feel like its a surprise whether you wait or find out halfway through :) I think for the next one Ill either try to wait or keep the name and maybe the gender a surprise fro everyone else :)

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  13. Jodie
    March 27, 2012 | 10:30 am

    We are currently expecting #5 and we have not found out with any of them. We love the surprise! We also love that it drives some of our friends crazy to not know!!

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  14. Alice
    March 27, 2012 | 10:45 am

    We always find out – mainly to do with willpower, lol! I like knowing who is in there early, and naming him and bonding with him in that way ahead of time :) I am currently 32 weeks pregnant with my 6th baby, and because they have all been boys, we now find out so that we can have as much fun preparing for a girl (if it’s a girl) as we possibly can! This sweet baby is another boy, however! ;) I’m no less thrilled to have another boy and no daughters (yet) – I’m just so thankful God continues to bless us! I’m so glad you’re feeling better! Very scary about Bella though! :S

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  15. Jenn
    March 27, 2012 | 10:59 am

    Our first two were surprises and I loved it! We decided to find out with our 3rd for the sake of logistics, but ironically baby had his/her legs crossed and the umbilical cord was between said legs. So, we’ll find out sometime in August!

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  16. Kim
    March 27, 2012 | 11:24 am

    Oh wait for the surprise! I waited for all of mine (only three). My last delivery was difficult and the unknown gender provided positive thoughts to focus on during the challenging time. Ultimately the Lord provides all we need but the unknown gender gave me sometime beautiful to think on in those challenging hours. “Be still and know that I am God” (Psalm 46:10) and He delights to bring joyful surprises;)

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  17. Heather
    March 27, 2012 | 11:36 am

    Well, in our family, Mama tends to enjoy suprises a bit more- so Daddy has known the gender of every baby until this one ! He has always managed to keep the suprise, though that was easy the first time, because he was deployed with the army. He had nicknames he called the babies, so he could refer to them that way and never have to use he or she. It is kind of funny.
    With our second, we did find out. The doctors had worried us (unfairly, it turned out) that baby was not growing correctly, so with the customary German prenatal care, we had an ultrasound every single visit. I had started out wanting another suprise, but with all of the pressure ( or temptation fromseeing baby so often on the u/s..?) decided I wanted to know too. Well, they kept telling us, that looks like a boy. I must have known deep inside that I didn’t really believe that, because I never took that as definitive, and one day, lo and behold, we had seen so many ultrasounds by then that when SHE did show us that she was a girl, hubby and I could tell from the ultrasound before anyone else said a thing.
    Either way, it is always a suprise and always fun. Having one boy, we know he is really hoping for a brother this time, and we thought finding out might be the right thing to do- prepare him ahead of time you know? we were even thinking to do something fun, like a cake gender revealing party ( blue cake or pink cake) just for our children. But in the end, we realized…he wanted a brother last time too, and we didn’t find out ahead ( except Daddy of course) and when she was born, there was no disappointment. Sure, he wanted a brother, but he was even more glad that the baby was finally here :)

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  18. Jennifer Parmar
    March 27, 2012 | 12:50 pm

    I am expecting number 8 and we are always suprised…save baby number 2. My husband was part of the fist wave into Iraq and we wanted him to know what it was so if something happened to him, he’d know. The next phone call home (they were far and few between) I was able to squeak out, “It’s a girl” and the line went dead! This will be my 8th c-section, and we love that moment in the delivery room when the doctor says, “It’s a !!!!”-all mine have been born in Germany, so it’s even more fun to hear the announcement in German!

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    Annie Reply:

    How interesting! My first child was born in Burglengenfeld, Germany, as we were stationed in Hohenfels. Where are you guys currently stationed?

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    Jennifer Parmar Reply:

    We were stationed in Hohenfels from 1998-2001, then we were in Bamberg from 2002-2012, and now we are stationed in Kaiserslautern! I just LOVE Germany and the prenatal care (as well as the post natal care)!

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    Annie Reply:

    Oh my what a small world! I was in Hohenfels from 1999 til 2002- I worked with the 38th PSB and my husband was stationed with the 1/4th INF BN. We loved Germany as well, in fact we stayed for another few years in Stuttgart before going stateside.
    I have been to both Bamberg and K-town.And yes, the prenatal care is phenominal!

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    Jennifer Parmar Reply:

    The military world is a small one!! I was a DoDDs teacher and met my husband there! He was with the 94th engineers. The 1/4th “adopted” our school and I got to ride in a tank during one of their “battles”!

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  19. Gloria
    March 27, 2012 | 2:08 pm

    I started out wanting to be surprised with the first two. When we found out we were expecting twins, we wanted to know so we would be able to better prepare for them. Having had boys so far and wanting a girl we were anxious to know with #5 and found out we were indeed having a girl. With #s 6 and 7 I wanted to be surprised (even had an envelope with “the” picture in it incase we wanted to know and never opened it :) ) and with # 8 I found out by accident when looking at the ultrasound during a check up, but didn’t tell anyone ;) And now that we’re expecting twins again, I wanted to know for preparation reasons. We’re looking at boys # 7&8. My two girls aren’t terribly happy about that ;). God bless!

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    Kimberly @ Raising Olives Reply:

    Two sets of twins, now that is a surprise. :)

    Blessings.

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  20. Valerie
    March 27, 2012 | 2:12 pm

    We WANTED #4 to be our first surprise, but our sonographer ruined the surprise!! We asked her to turn the screen for a bit while she got all the measurements, then avoid that area to let us enjoy seeing our baby move around.

    She said, “You’ll never know!” and proceeded to give us about four good views where I could tell it was a girl! Oh well, we were thrilled and had fun preparing for her. Maybe next time! :)

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  21. li
    March 27, 2012 | 2:32 pm

    I think it is a surprise whenever one finds out, one is just sooner than the other

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  22. Meghan V.
    March 27, 2012 | 2:57 pm

    Been surprised with the first two (boys) and we are planning on being surprised with the one I have baking now. When you wait to know sometimes you go through periods of I”M DYING TO KNOW! But then it is such a nice surprise to have at the end of the birth.

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  23. Kelsi
    March 27, 2012 | 3:11 pm

    Love hearing the daily life of a wonderfully large family. Glad you are feeling better.
    We are expecting our 5th (a girl) soon and have found out the gender early every time. I love finding out so that we can call her by her name and pray and refer to her in a way that makes it more personal to our other children. I am sure it is great the other way as well, but I don’t think we will ever do it differently.

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  24. mamabooth
    March 27, 2012 | 3:23 pm

    With number one we found out the gender (a boy) and with number two we were surprised (also a boy). With both I thought we were having a girl. We also have a third we are adopting (also a boy) and a fourth (also a boy) that we are fostering. We are planning a new baby (pregnancy number 3) so we will see if God sends us a baby of the female variety. :)

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  25. Courtney
    March 27, 2012 | 4:05 pm

    No, we never found out with any of our nine and we won’t this time either!

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  26. Molly
    March 27, 2012 | 4:39 pm

    We like to find out….but only because I do not like to call the baby “it.” By knowing the gender, we usually pick a name and start calling that baby by name and I make up a little song for him/her that uses her name and sing it to the baby when he/she is active (in eutero). While I could wait for the song until the arrival, I would miss “introducing” that baby and using his/her name during the pregnancy. It makes the whole thing more personal and it is a lot harder for health care professionals to call my baby a “fetus” when he or she has a name.

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    Jan Reply:

    Right you are, Molly! We, too, love introducing the baby in my belly as “our son, Luke” or “our daughter Maria.”

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  27. Jan
    March 27, 2012 | 4:40 pm

    We have 13, ranging in age from 20 down to nearly 10 months. Only 3 of them were unknown until birth. I much prefer to know the sex during the pregnancy, name the child, and continue the rest of the pregnancy proclaiming the identity of the person in my womb. It’s a wonderful way to show others that this is already my child with a name and even a personality.

    My other children talk to the baby, calling him or her by name, and when they meet their new sibling face to face, the newborn already recognizes his/her older siblings and responds to his/her name!
    Win, win all around!

    In today’s society, where now even newly born babies are being thought of as not “persons,” I think we need to show the world our unborn children’s identities.

    PS I even talk encouragingly to the baby during birth. It helps keep me focused and calm.

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  28. Jonnie Bernier
    March 27, 2012 | 6:31 pm

    Happy to hear you are doing good. I also cry about everything when pregnant. It makes me feel kinda silly, because I usually do not cry much.

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  29. Bambi @ In the Nursery of the Nation
    March 27, 2012 | 10:37 pm

    So glad to hear you’re feeling better! You guys certainly made up for lost time!

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    Kimberly @ Raising Olives Reply:

    Just wanted to say that I LOVE your blog. Thank you for what you are doing!

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  30. Large Family Small World
    March 27, 2012 | 11:07 pm

    So glad you are feeling better. That first trimester is always a rough one around here too (I have to be medicated to keep from needing IVs.

    We’ve always found out the gender of our babies at the ultrasound, though we still had one surprise! Yep, the tech got it wrong and we had a surprise in the delivery room. Our boys always pull some sort of stunt during the pregnancy, but usually it is just turning at the end when they should not be able to!

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  31. Lorna
    March 27, 2012 | 11:30 pm

    I really enjoy your blog! Our first two were a surprise – girl, boy. For our third (girl) we found out as I had so many ultrasounds due to 3 months of uncontrollable bleeding. With the last 4 we have found out although I “knew” what gender they were as my girl pregnancies are so different to my boy pregnancies. We decided to find out for sure as our son really wanted a brother – desperately!! He had to wait through 2 more sisters before God blessed us with our 2 little boys <3 :) And as someone said above, it is a surprise either way just earlier or later.

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  32. Ursula Ciller
    March 27, 2012 | 11:55 pm

    I’m 18 weeks with my 2nd and, like the 1st, hubby and me like not knowing. The first trimester is always very hard for me (my mum never had morning sickness, heart burn, or excess fatigue – so at first thought I wasn’t happy. No one who is ‘sick’ once or twice a day wears much of a smile) so I am totally sympathetic to affected mums.
    A friend of ours had several ultrasounds done and were told it was %80 likely to be a girl. They painted the room pink and got girly clothes, etc. Next thing you know she had a lovely boy!

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  33. Cheryl
    March 28, 2012 | 10:42 am

    It’s a GIRL!! :-D

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    Kimberly @ Raising Olives Reply:

    Yay!!!

    How much longer do you have to wait until you meet her?

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    Cheryl Reply:

    I’m sue August 21st :-)
    It feels like its taking forever and flying by at the same time!

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    Cheryl Reply:

    Due***** haha

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  34. Shannon
    March 28, 2012 | 10:52 am

    I love true surpises, one’s have no idea are coming, but I can’t stand knowing there is something I don’t know and could know.LOL. Drives hubby batty sometimes, heehee. We found out with our three girls, and there was no question or percentage of accuracy, there was no doubt at all.

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  35. Foster
    March 29, 2012 | 1:36 pm

    First baby, did not find out. Second baby, did find out. Currently pregnant with third, will not find out. First two were girls, not having more biological children, hoping for a boy. Just now entering 12th week (I think) & will be glad to get to the rest, easy, part of pregnancy. Thankfully, this one has been my easiest so far :)

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  36. Brit @MomAnswersWithBrit.com
    March 30, 2012 | 11:44 pm

    Congrats on feeling better!

    You mentioned crying… do you drink raspberry leaf tea? My midwife suggest drinking it the entire pregnancy. She says that it not only helps tone your uterus, but it helps with your hormones too. :)

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    Kimberly @ Raising Olives Reply:

    Thanks Brit. I’ve never heard that Raspberry leaf tea can help with hormones. I have used it in several of my pregnancies, but really should be more faithful now that I’m facing another c-section.

    Thanks for the reminder.

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