Family Centered C-Section: My Dream, a Reality?

Our 10th baby, Isabella, was our first c-section. Here’s why we came to the decision to have a c-section after two home births.

Because of our birth history and Nick’s brachial plexus injury at birth, any more children we have (including the little one currently being formed) will be born via c-section.

Our first c-section was wonderful, Isabella was handed to me shortly after birth and I was able to hold her while they finished stitching me back up, but Mark and I have been talking about how to make it even better.

Yesterday I saw this video posted at Grateful For Grace. It’s amazing and brought tears to my eyes. I would love to be able to watch my baby be born, to have the privilege of discovering his/her gender and to have the baby immediately placed on my chest even while having a C-section.

I’m praying that the Lord will open our OB’s heart to helping us come close to this type of birth in 4 1/4 months.

If you had to have a C-section, would you choose something like this?

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72 Responses to Family Centered C-Section: My Dream, a Reality?
  1. Vicki
    April 4, 2012 | 8:54 am

    While I have not had C-Sections, in May this will be my 7th planned induction. Mainly for the risks involved with a large baby due to Gestational Diabetes. I try to have the most natural induction possible. Which usually means cervadil, and a slow pitocin drip. I dont do an epidural and we allow the babies cord to stop pulsing before cutting it. Things like that. Because sometimes medical intervention is necessary and we shouldnt feel badly about it. God bless you and your newest little blessing!!!

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  2. Large Family Small World
    April 4, 2012 | 8:59 am

    What a wonderful way to have a c-section. I love that they are so mindful of the need for mom and baby to be together, bond, and nurse right away. I hope you will be able to do this, I’ll keep you in my prayers.

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  3. BethAnne
    April 4, 2012 | 9:23 am

    I have had 4 c-sections and never was able to hold my babies until after I went into recovery. In fact, they strapped my arms down during surgery. That is amazing your doctor let you hold your baby right away. Yes, I would choose to have a more family centered c-section if it were an option. Although the nurses were great about bringing my baby to me as soon as they could and I nursed my babies within the 1st hour of life, I still feel very ripped off. My births were not what I would choose and I feel the doctor and assistant during surgery acted more like they were on their lunch break than at a birth. They chit chatted over me like I wasn’t even there!!

    I am happy to say I am now 33 weeks pregnant with baby #5 and found a new OB who is going to let me VBAC despite my 4 c-section history. I have a great birth team in place and hired the most amazing doula. I am so very much looking forward to being the first person to hold my baby! :-) I really feel God is giving back to me what the locust has destroyed! I am thankful!

    ~BethAnne

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    Melissa H. Reply:

    BethAnne–who is your OB? I have had 3 sections and am trying to find an OB who will allow me to try VBAC for future children. In my city, not a single OB will even discuss this with me, so I thought maybe if I call your OB and ask them for more info, maybe they’d give me something to take to my own OB (who I really love) to see if she would be swayed at all. Please tell me who your doc is, if you don’t mind sharing! Thanks!

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    BethAnne Reply:

    Melissa- When are you due? I don’t mind giving you my doctors name and number, but do you mind waiting until after my birth? The reason I ask is because this is the first time my OB has done anything like this. It was not her idea. I called pretty much every OB in town and got a no to VBAC. Even the homebirth midwives cannot do it because it is against the law for them.
    So anyway, this OB that I have now is new. She is young only 31 years old. She was the last one I interviewed and my husband & I went to the interview armed with information. Our big question was, “How can you tell us a 5th c-section would be safer than doing a VBAC?” None of the Ob’s we interviewed could answer this question. To them the C-section is more controlled. Truth of it all is they don’t want the liability. In a nut shell, she ended up telling me she thinks I should have a c-section, but that she won’t stop me from trying.
    I wouldn’t say she is wild over the idea. In fact she was looking like she was going to cry when she said yes.
    This is why if you could wait it would be better. I just don’t want her to think I am giving out her name and certainly don’t want her changing her mind on me. I am due May 21st…so not much longer!
    My biggest advice to you is READ, READ, READ! Write down as much info. as you can. Take these facts to the doctors with you and show them you know what you are getting yourself into. Also, did you know it is illegal for hospitals to force a c-section on you??? You have a right to refuse. You could always show up to the hospital ready to push and they HAVE to deliver you! You will probably be given a intern doc, but it may be worth it to avoid the c-section.

    Have you looked into homebirthing? This may be the best option for you if is legal in your state. This was my first choice. I am not to crazy over having to go to the hospital for my delivery. I have more worry over how I will be treated then I do about my uterus rupturing!
    Anyway, my email is HappilyDomestic09@yahoo.com
    Please feel free to email me anytime with questions or just VBAC advice in general. I am also curious as to why you ended up with the c-sections. Maybe we can chat about this and I can share my story.
    Also, all this month and next I am planning to write all sorts of helpful VBAC informational posts on my blog. It can be found at http://www.HappilyDomestic.blogspot.com

    Don’t give up! I almost did and the Lord answered my prayer. :-) I wish you the best!

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    JereNe Reply:

    Melissa, I agree with Bethann, do your homework. Try the ICAN blog. Tons of info there. I just had my 2nd God-Inspired vbac at home after 4 c-sections just 4 days ago. I did it with a non-licenced midwife (which are legal in my state). You can find a non-licenced midwife by calling and asking other midwives or getting a hold of your local “ican” chapter. Good luck and keep praying for the Lord’s guidance.
    :o) Jerene

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    BethAnne Reply:

    Jerene,

    Congrats on another successful VBAC! That is wonderful to hear and very inspiring to me. You give me hope. :-)

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    Anna Reply:

    I’m wondering, for those of you who had VBACs after repeat c-sections, what was the reason for the c-sections originally? I tried for a VBAC with my 2nd daughter a few months ago and was unsuccessful. I was in labor for 42 hours, got to 10 cm, pushed and she just wouldn’t come out. I had a midwife who was really great. I’m tempted to try again, but really it’s seeming like it just won’t work, so I’m thinking of just going straight to a c-section so things will be more peaceful.

    This video is really just so beautiful though. It brought tears to my eyes too.

    I would love to have something like this although I’m not sure I’d be able to find a doctor near me to do it. For me, feeling like I’ll never be able to have a normal natural birth and experience some of the things that come with it has been difficult, and some of those things would definitely be addressed by something like this.

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  4. Cindy
    April 4, 2012 | 9:35 am

    The c-section I had certainly wasn’t like that. They whisked my little girl away after giving me about 30 seconds to look at her. Hubby got a good chance to hang out with her, though. They did at least keep her with one of us. I didn’t even see her until morning–something like 6 hours later. Nursing her was really hard, too, since my milk took a couple of extra days to come in and they fed her formula before I ever got her. Sigh. All’s well that ends well, though. We finally got together and had a lovely time. :-)

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  5. Tristan
    April 4, 2012 | 10:09 am

    Oh Kimberly that looks wonderful when you need a c-section. I just had baby #7 and my first c-section, which we knew baby Mason needed. The things in the video would not have been possible for us, unfortunately. Mason was born with Spina bifida, hydrocephalus, and clubfeet. With the spina bifida his back was open and his spinal cord literally out of his back some. The sterile environment was of utmost importance and Mason was whisked away to a children’s hospital after he was stabalized so he could have surgery to close his back. I’m praying that any future babies will be successful VBACs, but if we needed another c-section for a medical reason I think this could be a wonderful way to do it.

    Praying all goes well with your newest pregnancy!

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  6. Kim
    April 4, 2012 | 10:24 am

    Looks like a wonderful option! I saw a photo this week of a mom actually pulling the baby out during her section! She had gloves on up to her elbows. :) I think maybe it was in New Zealand? I hope your OB is open-minded and lets you go for it!

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    Valerie Reply:

    No it was here in Australia! That is my OB! He is a brilliant OB and pioneered this type of delivery, where he allowed the mother to pull the baby from the womb. Of course, it won’t become common, but that is the kind of doctor he is. I went midwives last time, but am going with him as I think he will be fully supportive of birth choices.

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    abba12 Reply:

    Where in Ausralia? I’ve just been refused from the birth center due to new catchment legislation placing me out of their area. Is he in one of the brisbane hospitals? I’d love to track him down lol

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    Bri Reply:

    Not sure if this is the same thing. But this is the article I saw.

    http://www.theage.com.au/articles/2007/04/14/1175971419538.html

    Chris Gunnell is the OB in this article.

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    Valerie Reply:

    Yep, he’s my doctor! Here in Perth.

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    Valerie Reply:

    I see no reason why you couldn’t ask your OB about something like this – quote the article or show him/her! I don’t think I’d personally like to be that involved, but I did love the c-section on the clip. If I had to have a c-section that would be the way to go.

    Chris is here in Perth, not Queensland, sorry! :)

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  7. Jennie
    April 4, 2012 | 11:42 am

    Hey, I love reading your blog and this post totally hits home. I’ve had 2 c-sections and about to have another in October. I’ve never been able to hold my babies till the recovery room. How did you get your Dr. to let you hold yours last time while they stitched you up? I want to ask my Dr. if that’s a possibility, I’m in CA and not sure if that’s just not a normal thing, but hopefully doable. If you have advice let me know! Thank you.
    -Jennie

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    Kimberly @ Raising Olives Reply:

    Hi Jennie.

    We are blessed with a terrific Christian OB who loves the Lord and truly cares for his patients with Christ’s love. All through the c-section he hummed ‘Amazing Grace’, just what this nervous mom needed.

    We had made no requests at all for our first c-section, so I assume that it’s his (or the hospital’s) standard practice to give the baby to mom and dad during the c-section. It certainly wouldn’t hurt to ask about it.

    I would think that in CA they might be more open to that than here in TN.

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  8. Denise
    April 4, 2012 | 11:43 am

    This is unbelievable and amazing!

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  9. Taryn
    April 4, 2012 | 11:44 am

    Yes! I would most certainly want to do this. I just had my 2nd c-section after 4 normal natural deliveries. My first c-section wasnt bad and i was able to be with the baby quickly…but ths last one was awful. This was beautiful. thanks for sharing…

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  10. Cassie From The Thrifty Couple
    April 4, 2012 | 12:10 pm

    We’ve have 5 children 8 and under and we have had to have each via c-section. I was very disappointed about this with the first child as I had the “perfect birth plan” in my mind, but the Lord saw otherwise and I am very thankful for God placing us in the time period that we live in so that we can utilize the medical technology that God has sovereignly allowed to progress over time. If it were not for this technology, myself and our first would not be here and neither would the subsequent four little blessings. But we haven’t had this opportunity and I would love to be able to do this and so if the Lord wills that there is a next time, this is something I want to look into!Thanks for sharing!

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  11. Heather
    April 4, 2012 | 12:17 pm

    I will be praying about this for you. There is so much pressure about how we give birth, and that certainly doesn’t help when we have our own hopes and expectations that we aren’t sure we can even secure concerning them. I really do wish that for medically neccessary c-sections, whenever possible, this would be the norm, not an option.

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  12. Lisa
    April 4, 2012 | 12:26 pm

    My mom had a C-section like this with me 26 years ago. If your OB won’t do it you should be able to find one that will. Make sure you are very vocal about your preferences with your OB early on and find out for sure if s/he is down with it, if not, find someone who is!

    <3

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    Kimberly @ Raising Olives Reply:

    Thanks for this encouragement, Lisa. I’m hoping to get at least some of these things.

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  13. Melanie
    April 4, 2012 | 12:44 pm

    Both of my c-sections had special circumstances which would have ruled this out (Caleb was 6 weeks early, Lydia was an emergency c-section due to cord prolapse). Honestly I have no desire to watch the delivery, but it would be nice to hold them right away. I’ll have to ask my doctor about it next time around since I’ll probably be having c-sections from now on.

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  14. Christa
    April 4, 2012 | 12:49 pm

    Thanks for posting this. We will be having our 4th c-section in November. My first two were bad experiences but I wised up with the second and when the nurse looked away had my hubby hand me the baby and latched him on so she couldn’t take him away!!=) My last section was a lot better..baby stayed with me the whole time and got to nurse her not more than 30 minutes (as soon as I got back to my room). My nurse is a close friend and I had made it VERY clear what I wanted and they did exactly that!
    But my arms are tied down during my sections too=(… Kim who is your OB…we’re here in
    knoxville too. We like our OB but if yours is open to this we might have to switch!

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    Kimberly @ Raising Olives Reply:

    I’ll email you Christa!

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  15. Bridgette
    April 4, 2012 | 1:10 pm

    What a beautiful Birth!! I will pray that you would be able to have a Beautiful Birth like this woman had. I didn’t have a C-section with my 5 kiddos but if I ever needed to have one I would want to have one like this. Thanks for sharing this.

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    Kimberly @ Raising Olives Reply:

    Thank you for being willing to pray for us. God is good and, although I would love a birth like this, I’ll be grateful for safety and calmness throughout.

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  16. Kelsey
    April 4, 2012 | 1:48 pm

    I had an emergency c-section with my son (our first, 6 months now) after planning on a natural birth (bradley method)….I was put under anesthesia because there was not time for an epidural. Needless to say, I am quite nervous about delivery number two! our doctor is supportive of a
    VBAC for number two, but I will definitely be discussing a cesarean like this with her, just in case. I know sometimes there is not time for an epidural in an emergency situation, but this would be best case scenario….thank you so much for sharing this!

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  17. Kristin
    April 4, 2012 | 2:57 pm

    I’ve had 3 c-sections. With the last 2, I was able to stay away during the c-section after having an epidural. I was able to hear my child’s first cry and hold them as soon as they were born. My husband was also able to be in the room with me. Just talk to your doctor. I thought all doctors would rather have their patient awake during surgery. You can’t feel a single thing from your waist down. Both of mine were planned c-sections. As long as it’s not an emergency c-section they should be able to do this.

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    Kimberly @ Raising Olives Reply:

    Hi Kristin.

    Did you have the opportunity to watch the video? It’s wonderful and it’s about a lot more than being awake and your husband being in the room with you.

    You’re right, nearly every non-emergent c-section allows for you to be awake, hear the baby’s first cry and for you husband to be present, but this video presents something that’s new.

    This video is about the mom actually watching her baby be born, going a little slower and allowing the uterus to push the baby out, having the baby put directly onto the mom’s chest skin-to-skin and more.

    Blessings.

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  18. Annie
    April 4, 2012 | 3:05 pm

    This would be a wonderful experience for you and your husband. My OB asked my husband and I if we wanted to watch our son being born via c section and I choose not to because I get very ill from the anestetic. My husband tried but became very queasy from the doctors burning through my scar tissue so the OR staff had to give him the salts to keep him from passing out! Needless to say you had two wimps bringing a baby into world :0) I did get to hold my son in recovery though which was a blessing! I was not able to do that with my other two children.

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    Kimberly @ Raising Olives Reply:

    I’m not positive that I want to see the birth, but I’d like to have the option. Hubby did watch part of our last c-section (and recorded it for me).

    My main thing is getting the baby right away!!

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  19. Lisa @ Fat Chick Fed Up
    April 4, 2012 | 3:16 pm

    I have had 4 c-sections myself, none of which were desired by me. I had planned a home birth with my last baby but that ended in another c-section due to breech presentation. Because I had educated myself I was able to advocate for some things that I wanted-having my husband present for the spinal, no narcotics administered in the spinal, dropping the curtain, delayed cord clamping etc… as well as some other things related to my and baby’s care. The hospital was very accomodating and did their best to meet our needs. The only thing they would not budge on was allowing me to have baby right after the birth. I did have him nursing within 30 minutes of birth in recovery. I would love to have a birth like this one if I couldn’t have it naturally. To my knowldge though, this has not been done in the US yet. I could be wrong on that but I have done lots of research and have only heard of it being done overseas. Hopefully that will change and this will become more common. I can’t wait to hear if your OB is open to the idea. I did write out a very detailed c-section birth plan. If you would like to see it, I’d be happy to send it to you. Whatever happens, I’m sure that you will have a beautiful birth!

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    Kimberly @ Raising Olives Reply:

    I really want to have my husband allowed in while they do the spinal. That was the hardest part of the c-section for me and it was nerve wracking for him. Glad to know that it’s a possibility.

    I would be very interested in seeing your c-section birth plan. You may email me through this link.

    Thank you.

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    Melanie Reply:

    Kurt was allowed to go back with me for the prep including the spinal with Caleb. He sat right in front of me and held my hands. That was a big help. I agree the spinal is the hardest part (aside from recovery!). We didn’t have to ask, either; it must just be standard procedure at our hospital. With Lydia he was not allowed back at all. No wonder, it was extremely hectic in the OR as they were trying to get me prepped. It was scary having to go without him, but adrenaline carries you a bit in that kind of crisis. I hope you’re able to have Mark with you the whole time this time around!

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  20. BethAnne
    April 4, 2012 | 3:29 pm

    I have an idea about all this! Why not ask your OB to watch this video? (this goes for all the women seeking this type of birth) It’s not long. I bet if you really express a desire for this type of birth during your c-section, they would be at least willing to work with you a bit more. Also, maybe OB’s NEED to see how it can be done better. We can’t forget that even a c-section birth is OUR child’s birth and we are paying THEM to work for us! Anyway, just a thought!

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    Kimberly @ Raising Olives Reply:

    That is exactly my plan.

    Hoping that he’ll watch it with me in his office. My appointment is next week.

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  21. Annie
    April 4, 2012 | 3:45 pm

    Wow! I feel like I am in great company!! I, like many others who have commented, have had 4 children and 4 c-sections. We are due with #5 early September. I just watched this video yesterday! I thought it was nice too. The only thing though, this is a major surgery! I understand having the baby as soon as you can, but wonder why these procedures are there already!?
    I actually got to nurse my 4th before I could even be elevated. My husband goes with the babies after delivery to get measured and weighed and he is my advocate when he is there. I don’t feel ripped off at all! Looking back, I regret not learning my options for a vbac while I was in a safer situation. I am worried even about the risks of a 5th csection. Our choice has been to let the Lord dictate the size of our family, and I know it has been a struggle for my husband. He’s not sure how my body will handle future pregnancies. Our family isn’t unsupportive necessarily, but they all think we are crossing the line with physical risks. Thankfully, the Lord has allowed me to heal greatly each time and my Dr. knows I will ask in the OR how everything looks. It is just an area, I suppose, where I will have to completely trust the Lord.

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    Kimberly @ Raising Olives Reply:

    Hi Annie.
    You said,

    I understand having the baby as soon as you can, but wonder why these procedures are there already!?

    Probably for many of the same reasons that until fairly recently (and still in many hospitals) it has been standard practice to take the baby away from the mom even in natural or un-medicated births.

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  22. Christi
    April 4, 2012 | 3:49 pm

    Just a couple of weeks ago I was able to get permission to photograph my cousins c sect. Baby was handed off to dad abt 15 minutes after the birth but I was able to photograph the birth and all that happened with baby after the birth as well as dad bonding with baby. Once mom was carted off to recovery to bond with baby they ran me off and wouldn’t let me get any photos of mom bonding with baby, unfortunately no images of those first sweet moments but they appreciate what I was able to capture of the birth and all.

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  23. Kimberly
    April 4, 2012 | 4:12 pm

    I have had 3 c-sections. My first was an 11 pound FRANK BREACH presentation. I didn’t get to see him until my mother came in with flowers at 10 the next morning, exclaiming about that BIG, BEAUTIFUL BOY OF MINE! I’ll never forget the look on her face when I replied, “Really? I wouldn’t know!” My Mom whipped around and said…YOU HAVEN’T SEEN HIM???

    “Nope. They took him to the Special Care nursery and told me I had to remain in bed, flat on my back. Spinal headache and all.”

    My Mom (who has had MANY sections) said…THAT THREAT PASSED 12 HOURS AGO!!! You can get up!

    I don’t know WHO that crazy woman was that flew out of my hospital room that day, but it sure wasn’t MY MOM! Because MY MOM would never have been yelling like that at the nurses desk for one of you lazy SO AND SO’s (rhymes with witches) to get a wheelchair, and TAKE MY DAUGHTER TO SEE HER BABY RIGHT NOW!!!!

    Within SECONDS I had a limo ride to the nursery to see my lil fella (and his 3 chins)

    Just goes to show…you always need your Mom!

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    Kimberly @ Raising Olives Reply:

    Love this comment, but it’s sad that many medical professionals do not understand that God created moms and newborns to need each other and that it’s important to get and keep them together as much as is medically possible.

    Have you read about the amazing results they’re having with ‘kangaroo care’? It seems that the U.S. is lagging behind other developed countries in recognizing the physical (as well as emotional) benefits of close physical contact between mother and newborn.

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  24. Diana
    April 4, 2012 | 4:46 pm

    I had to have an ‘emergency’ c-section with our first baby. I was devestated because my husband and I want a large family and I knew that would be more feasible if I could deliver naturally. The Caesarian was so difficult because you feel completely out of control and I didn’t get to touch and hold our son fora hours after the delivery. If we has this option I would have jumped for joy! I hated being separated from our baby and also feeling so out of control over what was happening to him and me. I pray this works for you and that we might get to do the same in future pregnancies if I need another c-section!

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  25. Renata
    April 4, 2012 | 6:05 pm

    Hi Kimberley
    I am crying because this is so much nicer than any of my c-sections were. I hope that if God ever blesses us again that I can have something like that (unfortunately c-sections are inevitable). I would love to hear how you go with this ~ I hope you can.
    Sorry I haven’t commented in ages ~ I am loving your blog & your book as well ~ I highly recommend it!
    Blessings
    Renata:)

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    Kimberly @ Raising Olives Reply:

    Thanks Renata.

    I will keep the blog updated as much as I can about the pregnancy and birth plans as well as how our cesarean goes.

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  26. Lois
    April 4, 2012 | 7:16 pm

    I had an awful experience with my daughter — 2 weeks overdue, 4 days of induced labor, followed by an emergency C-section which I was completely put under for. I’m terrified to try to try to give birth again, and terrified of a planned C-cection. This video nearly made me cry! It would be WONDERFUL to have a birth like that!

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  27. Serenity Summers
    April 4, 2012 | 8:04 pm

    Wow!!!! That video was profoundly amazing. All of my kiddos were vaginal but with my 3rd and 4th babies my husband had to leave the room while I got an epidural. That was the most difficult part of labor- being separated from my husband.
    It’s wonderful to think that labor and delivery practices are changing to be more family centered- I really believe that is due, in part, to people beginning to really see children as the GREATEST blessing!!!
    I hope and pray your OB is moved enough to consider a more family centered approach :)

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  28. Laura
    April 4, 2012 | 10:04 pm

    Truthfully, I was a little scared to even watch the video. Watching my baby being born normally is one thing, watching the surgery aspect a whole different thing. It was better than I thought. I like the emphasis one skin to skin. We have 7 children. The last two being twins in which #6 was a normal birth, but when he came out #7 turned funny and despite the doctors repeated attempts to pull him out ended up a c-section ( my first c-section). I could feel the cutting inspite of the epidural and asked to be put out. If I ever had to have another c-section, I don’t know what I would want. Mainly I just wouldn’t want to have another c-section. I had a horrible recovery experience.

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    Kimberly @ Raising Olives Reply:

    Hi Laura.

    So sorry to hear about the tough time you had with your cesarean.

    I hope that if/when the time comes for you to have another baby that a VBAC will work out for you. If not that God’s peace would overwhelm you. Please know that not all cesareans have to be difficult. Our first was wonderful. As a matter of face, my recovery from the c-section was easier than for most of my natural births.

    God bless.

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  29. Bri
    April 4, 2012 | 10:33 pm

    Thanks for getting the word out on this video! I saw it some time back and would LOVE this option! I have had 2 c-sections (first was 5 weeks early, 3 days of induced labor, for pre-e…second was 2 weeks early for blood pressure that was getting very high–they were both breech). I’m scared to get pregnant again as there is ONE doctor in my entire (large) city that even does VBA2C. No midwives will even let me try even though I’ve never actually had a good go at trying on my own (NEVER dilated past a 4 with either of my boys).

    Anyway, this post has been such a blessing for me! So may people have told me I can’t have more kids b/c of 2 sections already and this has given me a lot of hope!

    Also, wanted to pass along this article to you. This is from Australia, I think 3 years ago. After doing some research online I found that this type of birth is VERY common in South Africa…so there’s really no reason it couldn’t be here! http://www.theage.com.au/articles/2007/04/14/1175971419538.html

    Thanks also for all of you ladies and the info about being able to hold the baby, delay cord clamping, etc. These are all reasons I’m actually considering a scheduled c-section with future babies since I think doctors would maybe be more willing to try these things if they were more in control of when the surgery happened. Has anyone else had that experience?

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  30. Joy
    April 4, 2012 | 10:58 pm

    One of my favorite birth videos!!! When I saw the title of your post I knew immediately you were going to talk about this video. I will be praying for the upcoming birth of your little one, that you will have a very peaceful birth, as the movie depicts. I wish more OBs understood the importance of delaying cord clamping, especially in premature and cesarean births.

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  31. Tisha @ Delectable Home
    April 4, 2012 | 11:09 pm

    Wow, this was a little hard for me to watch, but a beautiful experience! I’m sure your next birth will be a glorious blessing in its own way, just as each of the others have. Thanks for sharing this!

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  32. Rachael Reeb Kitchens
    April 5, 2012 | 1:33 am

    I would love to have a csection experience like the one depicted in the video!!! We are so clinical and sterile in the US…because of legal liability! I will be having my 3rd csection one week from today and reading all the replies has reminded me of some things I had forgotten about the first two surgeries. Having the spinal without my husband in the room did not bother me as much as some, but, we are a military couple and I have grown accustomed to doing many things without my husband. However, reading the accounts above reminded me just how comforting and strength providing his presence is to me. As I recall, he was allowed in the OR after the spinal and then remained. He was allowed to take pictures and video (but not of the actual surgery). The surgery is what I wanted to see most however, to have the very first glimpse possible of that precious baby…not after he was all cleaned up and swaddled! The other part of my csections that I hated was being strapped down to the table, spread eagle style, feeling very vulnerable. That said, both my csections went well and I had very speedy recoveries. I was able to hold my baby soon after, skin to skin, though it was not in the OR. How terrible for the ladies who were not able to hold their babies until hours later! That should not be. My husband, like one woman above, was able to be with our babies right after birth for the APGAR ratings, etc and the nurses were very willing to let him be alongside them as they performed their after birth checks. He was able to video take pictures, etc. I am definitely apprehensive with this third c section, however. My delivering OB I met for the first time a few weeks ago and his bedside manner leaves alot to be desired. (My OBs for the first two were warm and caring and funny). I wish I had seen this video earlier, and read all of the posts earlier. I would have done a lot more research and asked more questions during my doctor visits. Even though I am very satisfied with my first two csection experiences, much could have been improved upon! I think the family centered csection is a wonderful idea, and I can see it taking hold in the US. More and more hospitals are allowing VBACs and research is coming out in support of VBACs. Since this change is occurring in the medical community, I think the acceptance of family centered csections will be be favorable as well. Actually, the large family movement in America has probably had a positive influence on the shift in thinking in the medical community, because they are seeing first hand just how much strength God designed into a woman’s body…she was built to reproduce!

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  33. Kayla
    April 5, 2012 | 3:26 am

    I think this is a wonderful thing! I hope this becomes the standard of care across the world. Hope you get what your dreaming of! Good luck! :D

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  34. Michelle B.
    April 5, 2012 | 4:40 am

    That is so very awesome…I would love to have that done, but considering this will be my 6th c-section I don’t know if I could get my dr. to budge on these things. I would be happy to be able to keep the baby with me in recovery.

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  35. Bambi @ In the Nursery of the Nation
    April 5, 2012 | 3:12 pm

    Kimberly, I cried watching the video…thank you so much for posting it. My last baby (#8), 2 wks ago, was born via c/s. There were some aspects better than i thought it would be, and some things worse :( Reading through the comments here I can see that if i had prepared more (I only had one week that we thought it could be a possibility, but still could have been educating myself) the c-section could have went better. I had no idea I could request my husband to be the with me for the spinal and it was a terrifying 15 minutes for me and husband both. Thanks again for the video and link to a great blog!

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    Kimberly @ Raising Olives Reply:

    Reading through the comments here I can see that if i had prepared more (I only had one week that we thought it could be a possibility, but still could have been educating myself) the c-section could have went better.

    Yes, and then again, no. God gave you the perfect cesarean for your good and His glory (I know that you know this :) ) Even though our first cesarean was great, I wish I had done more research and learned more, but then again, God is good.

    Here is another bit of info, just in case… in my first c-section they didn’t use any morphine or morphine derivative, although that is standard because it gives longer pain relief. (I’m allergic to morphine) Anyhow, morphine comes with some tough side effects (itching and nausea). I had none of that and the nurses couldn’t get over how quickly I was up and moving around. I also had no difficulty with pain control. I know that not everyone responds to drugs in the same fashion, but for me, this was terrific.

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  36. Gwen
    April 6, 2012 | 10:47 am

    Our first 5 babies were born naturally, but #6, 7, 8 have all been c-section. I kind of had to fight the hospital on this last one for the right to keep her for an extended period after the birth, but it worked out and the Lord answered our prayers.

    It helps to have your OB doctor support you because from what I’ve seen, it’s usually the hospital that fights against you having a say in making it more natural. If more women would pressure their hospitals it would give better alternatives for everyone. I think a lot of women don’t say anything because they just think they don’t have a choice as to how their c-section is done.

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  37. Hannah H
    April 6, 2012 | 5:32 pm

    We will be having our 3 rd c-section this June, I can’t deliver naturally like I wanted but the Lord knows best. We are extremely blessed to have an OB who is a homeschooling father of 6! Rare find in the medical community. We trust the Lord to plan our family and have peace about having sections, just leaving it in His hands. We know quite a few people who have had 6 or more sections, so that really encourages me. I’ve experienced an emergency and a planned c section, planned is so much better :)

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  38. Missy
    April 7, 2012 | 8:31 am

    I have had a total of 5 C-sections(first was an emergency one, also 2 vaginal births to start with and our last delivered at 19 weeks stillborn). With our 6th child our female astethists-sp? untied my arms and I was able to feel him and slightly hold him better. It was wonderful!! I loved the part in this video where the Mom gets the baby and then is allowed to keep him. At our hospital in the recovery room I am without him for so long and then it seems like it takes forever to bring him to our room. If I am blessed to get pregnant again I will ask my doctor to watch this but I don’t think it would be completely up to him but the whole team of docs that are in the room. I would also love to have my husband in the room when they do the spinal. He was with me during my epidurals with the first two and also my last baby so not sure what the hang up is with him being in the room with a spinal. This is also my MOST dreaded part I would love to be in there with him. With my last c-section( Number 7 child). I verbally repeated all my childrens name and pictured their faces while he was doing this. They probably thought I was nuts but it really helped me to focus on something and seeing their faces in my mind and saying their names loudly was a comfort. Last time I found out that I can also have music in the room. I have already thought about that and I thought some Nathan Clark George music might be very peaceful. Now just waiting on that blessing.
    Kimberly, we are just down from you in Cleveland, I wonder if our docs may know each other since we are in the same area and in the past it seems like a lot of docs are at least familiar with each other. I love my doc and I think he would be willing to work with us. Just not sure I want to see a lot of what they are cutting away on but I would love to quickly have my baby.

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    Kimberly @ Raising Olives Reply:

    I’m not certain that I want to watch the baby be born, but would love to have the immediate skin-to-skin contact.

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  39. Nikki
    April 9, 2012 | 3:00 am

    Oh wow, I didn’t realize how that video would make me feel. I’m expecting my third c-section the end of August (8th child). And I am going to show this video to my doctor and ask him to think it– perhaps even encourage him to pray about it if he’s hesitant.

    My little (16 month) girl watched with me and said, “Oh! baby.” I don’t think she’s ever said “Baby” before. And it was with the sweetest expression. :)

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    Kimberly @ Raising Olives Reply:

    I’d love to hear what your doctor has to say.

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  40. Dianne Andrews
    April 12, 2012 | 4:49 pm

    Very cool!
    I’ve had 2 c-sections. I did get to hold my daughter in section #2, not sure why I didn’t with my son (same Dr., same hospital).

    It wasn’t skin to skin or anywhere like the video. That would make a C as close to a vaj birth as possible. Very wonderful.

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  41. Ac
    April 13, 2012 | 2:13 pm

    I have never had a c-section but would want the immediate contact with my baby. I would not want to watch the birth, however. Didn’t want to watch with any of my vaginal deliveries either! :-)

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    Kimberly @ Raising Olives Reply:

    I’m also not sure about watching, but am very thankful for the opportunity for immediate contact with the baby.

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  42. blessed
    April 13, 2012 | 2:25 pm

    i had to endure three c-sections. The first was emergency followed by two failed VBAC’s. Watching this made me cry. Oh, how i wished i could have had something as beautiful of an experience!!!

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  43. Jessica
    April 16, 2012 | 8:43 am

    My first two births were c-sections. I’m grateful to have found a doctor & mid-wife team that are working with me to achieve a VBAC delivery this go around. (I’m due May 27th.) The doctor will also do the baby pass through asap if I have to have another section. I hadn’t thought that was such a big deal until I watched this video. Thanks for sharing! I hope you’re able to fulfill your delivery goals!

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  44. Sarah
    August 14, 2012 | 8:36 am

    Because of this post I asked my doctor if this would be possible for me to do. He said no. So I worked my way up the ladder only to get a “no” everytime. Through all the asking, someone mentioned that would be a question for the anesthesiologist. Despite all the”no’s” I got before, I decided to ask the anesthesiologist. Although he didn’t give permission to give the baby straight to me, he did give permission to watch the birth! And (I know most people would not like this part) he allowed me to watch the entire surgery! I’ve asked to watch with all my previous 5 children only to be told “no” every time. My doctor was awesome at talking me through the whole thing and telling me what he was doing each step of the way. It was neat to be able to watch my baby being born. I’m very thankful God allowed me to have the anesthesiologist I had. I have a beautiful, healthy, 1 week old baby girl that I got watch enter the world! :)

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  45. Taya
    January 10, 2013 | 1:37 pm

    In 2009 I gave birth to my first son through an emergency c-section. The c-section itself was traumatizing for me. My epidural slipped during labor and there wasn’t enough time to re-position it, or administer another form of anesthetic because my son was in extreme distress. My OB’s goal was to just get my son out and treat my pain afterwards. I felt the cutting, pain, and pulling completely on my left half during my c-section. After my son was out I didn’t get to see him for several minutes, and when I did I wasn’t able to hold him. My husband presented him to me cleaned and wrapped in a blanket and held him near my head so that I could kiss him. I was then carted away to recovery and left alone in tears for over 20 minutes. When a nurse finally came in to see me I was denied any visitors other than my husband, even though our birth plan strongly outlined that my husband was to stay with our son and that I wanted my mother to stay with me. Even through my tears and pleading they did not allow my mom to come in to comfort me. Instead the nurse retrieved my husband against my wishes and soon he was in the recovery room worried that something had gone terribly wrong since he knew that I wouldn’t have asked for him to come in. After that he went back out to our son and again I was left alone. After about an hour and a half in recovery I was finally brought to my postpartum room where I was told I would get an hour of skin on skin with my son before visitors would be permitted. Finally I was able to hold my son!!!!! But within 20 minutes of holding my son my parents and my in-laws were ushered in by another nurse. In whole my birth experience was traumatizing and negative. Shortly after having my son I discovered that the Southern California county I live in does not allow VBAC’s! In order to try for a VBAC I have to establish a relationship with a doctor and hospital out of county. Obviously it is scary to think that my OB and my delivery hospital will be over an hour away… Potentially I can stay with family out of the county during my last few weeks, but I am not sure if I want to leave my son, my husband, and my home. Then there is the whole “trial of delivery” that I may have to go through, in which case my VBAC attempt can end in another c section. I am torn on what to do. I am just praying that God will lead me in the right direction. I am hoping that I can get my current OB to agree to a family centered c-section. Being able to have the family centered c-section will allow me to have all of the emotional connections I longed for with my first pregnancy, while also allowing me to stay at home during my last three weeks.

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