The little ones are fighting, the big ones ‘never’ obey, you’re struggling physically with another pregnancy, hubby is stressed about work, the house is a disaster and one of your friends just sent you a note requesting that you no longer contact her because of something that is beyond your control.
Sometimes it’s just too much. Sometimes I know that I can’t possibly do this and sometimes I wonder why God has chosen me to parent a large family.
How do we keep homeschooling when we don’t even want to parent?
If I have a bad attitude about my circumstances, the only one I have a true complaint against is my heavenly Father.
And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose. ~Romans 8:28
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. ~Jeremiah 29:11
I am demonstrating by my attitude and possibly my actions that I do not believe God or His Word.
Rejoice always. Pray without ceasing. Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. ~ 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it. ~ 1 Corinthians 10:13
I can do all things through Him who strengthens me. ~ Philippians 4:13
I am sinning against the One that gave His life for me and I must repent.
Seek out your husband
God has ordained that we are not alone in this parenting journey. My husband is my sanity and strength during times when I don’t know what to do.
Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. ~ 1 Peter3:7
Ask for your husband’s advice and input. Ask for his direction. Ask for his prayers.
And then do what he suggests.
Focus on the reason you are homeschooling
The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge ~Proverbs 1:7
You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, ~ Deuteronomy 6:5-7
Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. ~Mathew 6:33
Hopefully, your goal in home educating is to teach your children to fear the Lord, to seek His kingdom and to love Him. Hopefully you are striving to teach them that their only duty, their only allegiance in life is to be faithful to their God.
And isn’t that what we need to learn when we’re tempted to give in? Isn’t it what we need to remember when we struggle with a poor attitude? Isn’t Jesus where we need to turn in the midst of the storm?
There are often times when our family has chosen to eschew our normal course of study for a prolonged time of Bible reading, prayer, discussion and praise.
There are often times when we spend the day listening to praise music, sermons, lectures or the Bible on CD. We also spend days praying for forgiveness, strength, reassurance peace. (Once again I realize the blessing of educating our children year round and of deliberately limiting our outside activities as this makes it possible for us to focus on the most important rather than being a servant of the immediate.)
Depending upon the ages of your children, share your struggles with them. This is part of “as we walk by the way”. We are to live our lives side-by-side, hand-in-hand with our children and struggle is a part of life. In God’s perfect design we are to speak of God to our children in the midst of the storm.
Don’t let anyone tell you that this isn’t homeschooling.
Don’t believe the lie that ‘they’ tell us over and over and over again, “It’s the academics.” “It’s the curriculum.” “It’s the test results.” “It’s the number of days.”
Pray without ceasing (1 Thess. 5:17)
We’re supposed to do this everyday, but I usually fall far short. It’s times like these that remind me to faithfully commune with God as I go about every aspect of life.
Do the next thingSometimes our circumstances seem so overwhelming that we are paralyzed, but God does not call us to clean the bathroom, wash the laundry, fix dinner, listen to a reading lesson and make those phone calls all at once. He calls us to do what needs to be done next.
I remember times when I would tell myself, “All you need to do is change this diaper.” “Now, smile at the baby.”
Two minutes later I would say, “All you need to do is make one sandwich. ” Then, “Make one more sandwich.” etc.
At every point I would know that I could do that one task, but I would have sworn to you that I could not possibly manage a whole day.
Yet, by doing the one task that I knew I could and then by doing one more task that I knew I could, I would eventually make it through an entire day and eventually an entire week.
How do homeschool when you need an attitude adjustment?
Be sure to visit the other Moms of Many to see how they homeschool when they need an attitude adjustment:
KimC at Life in a Shoe says exactly what I hope I said, “How do you homeschool when you’re in a rotten mood?” “You don’t! Repent first and then put one foot in front of the other.”
Connie at Smockity Frocks reminds us to put on our big girl panties and do what needs to be done.
Headmistress at The Common Room offers biblical encouragement and reminds us it’s OK to take a break.
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