No, it’s not Thursday, but here on RO the 4 Moms post is coming a day late because I goofed when I read the schedule and wrote on the wrong topic.
So today I’m answering some reader questions:
Monique, my real life friend, admitted feeling guilty when she asked, “How do you cut little boys hair so they don’t look foolish? (complete with picture how to’s, of course.). Since I know you’re bursting with energy and have ABSOLUTELY nothing better to do, I’ll look forward to your step by step how-to tomorrow. ”
Monique, Mark says,
So glad you finally asked because we’ve been wondering how to subtly approach this problem in your family.
Just because we like laughing
at with you (and not at all because we’ve had several groups of out of town guests this week), you’ll have to wait until Monday for your step-by-step video tutorial of how to give a boy a basic haircut.
Inga, one of RO Facebook readers asked what we do about bed wetters who wet through pull ups during our weekly family fun nights .
Hannah D. wondered, “How to handle sleeping at night/get your babies/kids to sleep at night and possible all night?”
We co-sleep with our newborns and this generally continues for the first few months. Until Isabella (our 10th) we didn’t have any difficulties transitioning from our bed to their own bed, but Bella had her own ideas.
Because of our commitment to breastfeeding our babies until at least a year (preferably longer), we do not push for them to sleep through the night until they are ready to wean themselves. (I know that some people have no problem continuing to breastfeed once baby is sleeping through the night, but that hasn’t worked for me.)
Once our children are old enough to sleep through the night, we do not encourage them or reward them for getting up. If little one gets up and comes to bed with mom and dad one night, that’s fine. (Sometimes it’s a bad dream, sometimes they aren’t feeling well, etc.) If it seems that it is becoming a habit, we get up and put them back in their own bed and encourage them to sleep on their own.
We don’t make it a habit of getting children drinks, snacks or giving them lots of attention during the night.
We encourage night time independence. (i.e. we teach them to get their own drinks, take themselves to the bathroom, etc.)
We always make sure that our children know to come get us if they’re feeling poorly!
Adrienne asked, “How well do you plan meals or do you choose meals day by day? ”
If I don’t plan our meals we’re in trouble.
I (or the children) regularly plan meals for breakfast, lunch and especially dinner. Here is our menu plan for the current week. Currently, I rely heavily on theGNOWFGLINS weekly menu plans to help with our weekly plans.
When our children were younger, I created reusable menu plans with shopping lists so that I wouldn’t have to plan every week.
We also bulk cooked for our freezer for a couple of years. When we did this, menu planning for dinner was a snap, it simply involved pulling something out of the freezer and making sure we had side dishes.
MaryJo said, “I’ve read your posts on clothes, laundry, etc. and I’m wondering if you have the same clothing limits for babies as for older children. Do you keep more outfits on hand for little babies (extra onesies, etc.)? If you have different guidelines, could you share them?”
Yes, I do keep more outfits out for little babies.
I don’t have any specific guidelines because I’ve found that they really have different needs. Bella, for example, needed lots of extra outfits because she constantly spit up copious amounts of breastmilk. Nick, on the other hand, spit up rarely. Kaitlin routinely blasted through diapers, while with Matthew it was a rare occurrence.
Many have asked about our clothing limits during potty training. I generally do not have more clothing out for potty training children simply because I need the motivation to get those urine soaked clothes washed, quickly. When we have a child in the midst of potty training, I just throw in a couple of their things with nearly every load that I wash.
Kelli says, “my question is about budgets, paying for chores, and disciplining…how do you manage all of it on income, do the kids get paid for chores (and how do you balance who pays for what), and how do you handle the disciplining for chores not being done?”
Our children do not get paid for chores.
All chores must be done, period. If they aren’t the child continues working until they are. If a child is being rebellious or purposefully disobedient, we deal with those actions biblically. If a child is consistently not living up to what they can do, we will give them extra chores so that they can practice hard work and diligence.
Michelle wondered, “What are your thoughts about how your kids are going to do college, if they choose to want to do so. I find it overwhelming to think about(community college/state university/private Christian School, financing…) .”
All of my siblings and I paid our own way through college and we all received college (or higher) degrees.
We do not personally believe that it is wise to go into debt for a college degree and it is our family’s conviction to NOT take state money, so state funded financing, scholarships, etc. are out of the question. This makes a lot of the financing questions moot.
You may want to read: Never Pay Retail for a College Education
Our oldest has 3 more years of high school and at this point has no desire to work toward a college degree. She is, however, gifted in math and science and so might pursue some higher level classes (possibly online) in those fields.
Our third oldest (now 13) has said for years that he would like to be a pastor or missionary. We continue to head in that direction with his homeschooling, but rather than automatically sending him off to college, we are extremely interested in finding a godly man who would be willing to mentor him in an apprentice type manner. We know others who have done this and have earned degrees online while being mentored by a man in the field they desire to enter.
Other than that, we are still working through these issues.
You may also be interested in:
- Family Fun Night
- Breastfeeding Tips
- Tips for making reusable menu plans
- Breakfast and lunch menu planning
- Bulk cooking for your freezer (with links to freezer recipes)
- Laundry help: Clothing limits
- Laundry systems for the large family
- Potty Training Day 1: Live Blogging Adventure
- Daily chores for kids
- Public schools – why they aren’t an option for us
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