More questions and answers from FB today.
Lisa asked, “How’s your recovery coming from the c-section?”
Thanks for asking. I’m feeling well. About a week and a half post surgery, I began to feel more like myself with renewed energy and no more aches, stiffness, etc.
I made a huge mistake of thinking that, since I felt terrific, the “No lifting anything more than 1o pounds” was a silly limitation and lifted something significantly more than 10 pounds (probably well over 50). Please let me remind anyone who is going to have a c-section, that those rules are in place for a purpose and it’s good to follow them, even if you feel completely normal.
As I was recovering from surgery, I was reminded of God’s grace even in the midst of His curse. Eve’s curse was pain in childbearing, but in the normal course of child bearing the pain stops the moment the child is born. What an amazing grace and mercy!
Sarah wondered, “What do you do for kids losing their teeth? Anything special?”
We give each child a dollar per tooth. Not the cheap way, but since we don’t do any type of allowance system, this is often the child’s first money of their own and it’s fun to watch them save for something special and wait anxiously for their teeth to fall out so they can afford their ‘dream’ toy. (They also get money from some relatives for their birthday, so they aren’t saving until their molars begin to fall out.)
Nicole said, “I would REALLY like to know if you have ever second guessed your decision to homeschool. Have you always been confident in your decision, or were there ever times where you thought of sending the kids to school?”
There was one time when I wanted to send the children off to school (imagine all the time I’d have to myself…..), but since I was homeschooled as a child and was able to see the life changing benefits that brought to our family (and before homeschooling I was in a terrific, small Christian school, so we’re not talking about a change from the public schools), it’s never been a serious consideration.
I also think that it was a benefit for me to move from being homeschooled to attending college. I honestly couldn’t believe how simple the courses were (and before I went I would have said that my high school homeschooling program had been too easy). That experience has given me tremendous confidence in preparing our children for that transition.
I’ve always loved homeschooling the children. My suspicion is that many people who struggle with homeschooling have lost sight of the purpose, to raise children who love the Lord their God with all their heart, soul, mind and strength. They get caught up in the requirements, the academics, the curriculum, the textbooks and what everyone else is doing. In my opinion, this isn’t what it should be all about. It should be about living side by side with your children, teaching them every day to love God and love others and enjoying life in the place and with the people that God has blessed you with.
Carol asked, “When your third baby was born, did you find it easier than when the second came along or was it harder because as parents you were outnumbered ( we are expecting our third next week via c-section and we will have three under three)?”
We thought that it was harder as we added each child up to #4. I think this is more a function of the age of the children, rather than mom and dad being outnumbered. If you’ve been diligent to train your children, you should be able to expect them to obey and shouldn’t need to rely on a hands-on approach, so children outnumbering parents shouldn’t be a factor.
Our fourth was born when our oldest was still 3 years and that was the most challenging time. By the time our 5th was born our oldest was 5 and that seemed to be the tipping point. It didn’t get any harder because the 5 year old was able to help enough to balance out the new demands of another baby.
Mandie asked, “I was wondering in your years of having children were you trying to have children as in the quiver full movement ? Of do you leave it in the Lords hands and have just been do blessed?”
I think that I may be getting terms mixed up. I would call ourselves “quiver full”, but I would define that as leaving our fertility in God’s hands and being content with the blessings that He sends whether it’s one child or twenty children. (Is that not what the generally accepted definition of the term means? I’d love to hear what you think the term “quiver full” means.)
I have heard of people who do this (i.e. wean the baby early so fertility returns, time things in order to conceive, etc.) and honestly, I don’t like that anymore than I ‘like’ the decision to cut off the possibility of anymore children.
Our thoughts on this are, God says that children are a blessing and we want to joyfully accept any blessings that He chooses to send. That said, He is the one who opens and closes the womb and because we recognize that He is sovereign, we don’t try to manipulate His timing or number.
I’m particularly bothered by those who wean babies early for the express purpose of trying to conceive. I believe that breastfeeding is part of God’s perfect plan for babies (just read the Bible and all the positive references to breast feeding) and that limiting a child’s access to the perfect food and the comfort that breastfeeding provides is, well, I just don’t like that idea at all. (Please note that I’m not talking about those who are unable to breastfeed!)
All of that said, I don’t believe that desiring and praying for more children is wrong (as long as you’re content with what you’ve been given). I don’t believe it’s any different than praying for any of God’s blessings (a new house, a better job, good health, etc.).
You may also be interested in:
- Menu planning with real, whole foods
- Sourdough cracker recipe (this is similar to the recipe we use)
- How God used cancer to bring us to homeschool
- Selecting a homeschool curriculum that supports your goals