Has your family ever considered adopting and what service projects do you guys do?
Yes, we’ve considered and have actively pursued adopting on several occasions. So far, the Lord has firmly closed the door, but we remain open to this possibility.
As far as service projects, we believe that God has specifically called our family to serve the body of Christ by encouraging other families as they walk the road less traveled. For us, this means opening up our home to groups and individuals, facilitating ways for families to meet for times of encouragement and biblical teaching (including camp outs, an Above Rubies retreat, and a much talked about, but hasn’t yet happened family conference here in the Knoxville area) and preparing and serving lots and lots of food.
So far because of our family dynamic of having many small children, other acts of service have been mainly limited to financially supporting those who are on the front lines.
Blair wondered about,
How to deal with family and friends who question about having more kids.
I was fairly certain that the 4 Moms have posted about this before, but when I checked our handy-dandy list of ALL the topics we’ve ever covered (complete with links), I couldn’t find it on there. So here goes.
We haven’t had much of a problem with it honestly. My mom is the youngest of 10, so she can’t really say anything, right Mom? There have been times when one person or the other hasn’t been thrilled when we’ve announced a new arrival, but we just allow that (or try to allow that) to roll off of our backs.
I’ve read on your blog before that at times when your children are struggling with character/behavior issues you guys put everything on hold to work on the issues at hand. I’m curious how that looks.
Of course it looks different depending on the issue, the number of children struggling and the number/ages of the children in our family. In other words there isn’t a set way the day looks.
The point of “putting everything on hold” is so that the children will have my undivided attention all day so that we can really focus on the character training that was lacking. At the end of the day, if we’ve worked hard on character training, we shouldn’t be discouraged with not getting much else done.
These are some possible scenarios:
Cancel any outside of the house activities. If friends were coming over or if we had lessons or cross country practice, we’d cancel or chose not to go. We did not to run errands or grocery shop. This ensures that the focus stays where we want it to stay, on character training.
Eliminate any other things that would distract me or make it difficult for me to stop what I was doing to handle the correction and teaching of our children. For me this generally includes school work, computer, phone, or other mind-consuming projects, etc. For you the list may be different.
Generally, we would tackle some type of cleaning or organizing project around the house. Everyone would be working together on the same thing and we would all be in the same area all day. Then every time a character issue needed to be addressed, I’m able to address it and since I’m not trying to tackle all of my regular duties I’m not frustrated (hopefully) that we really didn’t get anything done that day.
What is your favorite food?
First of all, thank you Stephanie!
I have two, chocolate and ice cream. Of course to qualify the ice cream should have chocolate in it.
How do you make “one on one” time with your husband and each of your children?
How do you encourage sibling relationships?
I hope that you find these posts to be helpful:
- Building Strong Sibling Relationships
- How does your family foster great sibling relationships? – This is a Q&A post and the answer is a little way down the page.
- Solving Sibling Squabbles – How we teach our children to handle squabbles biblically.
- Bossy Older Siblings
How do you choose good age appropriate books?
We have a few friends who we trust with book recommendations and I do a lot of pre-reading. I generally pre-read, or get input from others on Sonlight’s recommendations. (In this post I share the Sonlight books that we don’t read.)
Most of it comes down to doing your research, pre-reading and finding like-minded friends from whom to get suggestions. You may also like these book lists that I’ve posted.
We are a lot more free with what our older children read. We gently guide and with books that we haven’t read, we trust their judgement to come to us if there is something that is inappropriate.
Visit the other moms of many to see what they have to say: