I apologize that I’m out of lock-step with the other moms of many this week. I thought that it had been determined that we would be answering questions this week and so I prepared this post a few weeks ago. Then last night (after our family was off-line for the day) emails were flying and it was determined that we should be posting on a predetermined topic, so if you want to read a post about what to do when you desire more children and your husband does not, then visit the other 4 Moms:
Otherwise, I’m tackling more of your questions.
Discipline issues with teenagers. What do you do when they get mouthy with you?
Of course we’re still at the beginning of the teen years (we have three teens the oldest is 16), we’ll have multiple teens in our house for the next 16 or so years and so far the teen years have been delightful (perhaps my favorite stage of all, it’s like the icing on the cake of raising children-delightful!) For those who are curious, in two years we will have 6 teens in our home at once. I’m so looking forward to that!!
There have been a few occasions when we’ve had to correct one or another of our teens about the tone of voice they were using. Thus far, we believe that all our children that have entered the teen years have demonstrated the fruit of the Spirit and each time God brought quick repentance to our child from us pointing out that their attitude came across as haughty.
How did you handle being pregnant with all littles? Did you just tough out that season, and count down to better days? Or were there specific ways you tried to keep things simple.
The short answer is anyway you can.
I’ve done all of the following at different times:
- take a break from school
- use videos – My big kids remember this with fondness and my little ones probably wish that this would happen again.
- crock.pot – It’s your best friend.
- Fast food – yep. This last pregnancy was the first time our family has made it through a first trimester without relying on fast food and that is because Amber took over in the kitchen.
- once we paid a lady in our church to prepare a bunch of meals for our freezer
- eliminate outside of the house obligations
You may also appreciate “Homeschooling Through Pregnancy or Chronic Illness”
What do you do when you feel your scheduling and planning has failed, that your curriculum choices were way off? How do you restart? How do you reset? Do you concern yourself that it’s midstream, or do you just begin fresh and not worry about grade levels, etc?
This is a terrific question and one that took me a while to really get a grip on what was the best way to handle it. We finally decided that it was better to just start over midstream and not worry about grade levels.
Our decision was made clear when we considered this question, which is more important making sure that our children check off all the boxes and are in the right grade at the right time OR our children learning what they need to learn without all of us being miserable?
Our family is constantly making changes in how we homeschool. Our goal is to educate our children, not to make sure they systematically make their way through a set curriculum or a specific book list. Just recently, Mark has added a more self-conscious educational aspect to our meal times (We discuss a specific doctrine during dinner time each evening. Currently we;re discussing eschatology, just last night Mark asked Savannah (8) to explain about perterism. She told us why she was a preterist, but not a hyper-preterist based on some of our previous discussions.)
The talk titled, “How to Prepare for a Year of Home Education” in Family Strategies: How to Build a Healthy Family Culture in Your Home explains how we try to educate our children in our home.
She also wondered if I could share
the best remedy for inconsistency on the part of the teacher.
Just do it!
You may also be interested in “Homeschooling When Mom Needs an Attitude Adjustment“. All the advice in that post would be equally applicable in this circumstance.
You said that your children do a lot of Scripture memory. How do you decide what is age appropriate and how long to give them to finish?
The vast amount of Scripture memorization is done together in groups with our Memorization System. We have a memory box for both the big kids and the little kids that we do every weekday. We’re not in a rush and we don’t have set time limits. Whenever most of the children have memorized a passage we move on. We’ve found that over the years we’ve memorized a lot of Scripture.
Another way we’ve done Scripture memory is to make it into a game or a contest. Who can memorize the most verses in a week? (We give them a list of passages to work on.) This will give you a good idea of what each of your children are capable of doing. Each child is different and each should be encouraged to work their hardest.
Who can memorize the first chapter of Ephesians in ___(a certain amount of time)____. We gave the children different amounts of time based on their abilities. Whoever completed the memory work in their assigned time earned a place at a family party.
I think the important thing is incorporating Scripture memory into everyday. If you’re working on it regularly then you’ll find what works best for your family and for your individual children.
I was encouraged and inspired by Bambi’s post on how the made a more concentrated effort to encourage their children to memorize Scripture.
Now head over to the other Moms of Many to read about what they would do if they wanted more children and their husband didn’t: