This month’s joint 4 Moms topic is derived from a reader question (honestly, nearly all of the topics we tackle are from reader questions), but I wanted to share the whole question, because I wanted to answer all parts of it.
(a)How do you nurse and get everything else done around the home without having older children or family around to help? (b)Do you have a method for nursing and walking around? If so could you describe how? (c)Any other suggestions for multitasking? (d)Do you nurse while writing?
(a) The truth is that you probably won’t ”get everything else done around the home”, whether you’re nursing a baby or not and whether you have older children or family around to help or not.
I’ve nursed a newborn when I had no other children old enough to help (4 kids, 3 and younger) and no family available to pitch in. I’ve nursed a newborn when I’ve had several older children around to help and I’ve not been nursing any baby AND had older children around to help and I still haven’t gotten to a place that I get everything done around the house.
I think that if you have kids, especially if you have a larger than average number of children, you will constantly be in a place that there is more to do; more to clean, organize, cook, de-clutter, teach, disciple, etc. I think the thing to do is to make sure you take time out of ‘doing’ and just be with your children. The ‘doing’ things will still be there when you’re done, unfortunately.
(b) No. I’m don’t like the idea of nursing the baby while walking around and doing other things. I think it’s important to sit down and nurse the baby. You need the rest and the baby needs you.
The truth is that when Amber, our first, was a baby, I vividly remember nursing her while vacuuming. Looking back I realize how SILLY that was. Really? I was so busy with one newborn and a small home that I couldn’t find time to vacuum between feedings. It’s a vivid demonstration of the fact that my priorities were out of whack.
All of that said, there are rare occasions when we are traveling or on a day trip, when I will pack the baby into a carrier (a sling is easiest for this) and allow them to nurse and snuggle off and on throughout the day. I generally do this to keep them happy and/or to boost milk supply when we’re super busy and I’m generally getting less sleep. But even when I do this, I sit down and feed them several times throughout the day, so this is in addition to feedings, not to replace them.
(c) Generally the only multi-tasking I do when nursing is to read or listen to reading.
(d) Not really. During the first few weeks of nursing a newborn, I find that I can do some typing while nursing, but after they are a few weeks old, I can’t really hold the baby and type at the same time.
Bottom line, if you want to hear one of the big lessons I’ve learned about being a parent: You will not regret sitting down and spending time with your children, even if it means that other things may not get done.
You may also be interested in:
- Coping with a Newborn - where I prove that I do nurse and write at the same time.
- Tips for keeping up with the house, homeschooling, etc. while nursing a baby
- Breastfeeding Tips
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