Our Family is Growing: 4 Moms

This 4 Moms post is different. It’s not the post that you expected. It is not a post that I could ever have imagined writing before Monday. This is a post that only God could orchestrate.

but God directs his steps

A man’s heart plans his way,
But the Lord directs his steps. ~Proverbs 16:19


For the past several months our family has been preparing to adopt. During this time the Lord called us to participate in foster care through Safe Families for Children . (You may read about that calling and our experience with Safe Families here.)

Then a little over a month ago, things changed and we thought that the adoption door was closed.

Grammy Valor

My grandmother (92) is finally  😉 at the point where she should not be living on her own. After a couple of falls over the past year, she has been relegated to a wheel chair in a rehab facility for the past few months.

My grandmother is an amazing, godly women and is not your typical 90 something. Much of her uniqueness can be summed up by saying that she loves people.

She simply thrives on the busyness and  the full-of-peopleness of our home.

Our family is currently in a place that is well-suited to providing for her care because we have several family members who are capable of helping out with her mobility and personal care. Additionally  our decisions over the past years to be deliberately available for people mean that we don’t have a lifestyle of commitments that would make it impossible or difficult to be home with her.

So next month, my grandma will be moving to Knoxville to live with us. The current plan is to see how things go for two months and then to make a more permanent decision.

The kids are looking forward to more stories about when “Grammy” was a little girl (she’s a fabulous and funny story teller), more games of acey-deucey , and more read alouds. I’m looking forward to more time with my grandmother, a godly example of prayer, joy and contentment right in my own home and the amazing blessing of watching our children benefit from multiple generations under one roof.

But in the midst of this joy, there was a little part of me grieving the adoption that would probably never be.

And then, this week, the  adoption door creaked open.

beyond all we ask or think

We’re not ready to share details, but suffice it to say that on Monday God brought an adoptable, sibling group of four into our lives!

The details are amazing and it will be miraculous if  the children are actually placed in our home, but we are currently being considered as a forever family for this sibling group.

We appreciate your prayers for wisdom, for these children who desperately need the love of the One who will never leave nor forsake and above all that the name of Christ would be exalted.

The other 4 Moms are answering your questions today:

Life in a Shoe
The Common Room
Smockity Frocks

The winner of the Worship of God Conference giveaway is Dana, congratulations!

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36 Responses to Our Family is Growing: 4 Moms
  1. Kristin
    October 9, 2013 | 9:14 am

    I am amazed! Praise God for this wonderful opportunity, with your grandmother, as well as the adoptable sibling group. Your family truly demonstrates Godly family and community responsibility as well as love. I am just completely humbled and inspired by your family’s “open door”!


  2. Louisa
    October 9, 2013 | 9:27 am

    I love when God works out the seemingly impossible! Adoptive mom to 4 and soon 3 more!


  3. Crystal M
    October 9, 2013 | 9:31 am

    Love it! Congratulations 🙂


  4. Rebecca
    October 9, 2013 | 9:33 am

    Praying! 🙂


  5. Katie
    October 9, 2013 | 9:36 am

    This post gave me shivers. Exciting! So happy for your family!


  6. Heather Zalenski
    October 9, 2013 | 9:38 am

    My heart jumps for joy for you!! 🙂 God is so amazing! I will pray for you and family 🙂

    Heather Zalenski


  7. Michele @ Family, Faith and Fridays
    October 9, 2013 | 9:43 am

    I stand in awe at your open hearts and open home! Many blessings to your family. Looking forward to hearing about your new life journey!


  8. Elizabeth Sacks
    October 9, 2013 | 10:02 am

    Wow! It is sometimes completely mind blowing how God just moves in ways we could NEVER expect! Praying for you guys in all of these life changing, exciting transitions! 🙂


  9. Elizabeth Ours
    October 9, 2013 | 10:06 am

    How Exciting! you are One Amazing Woman who Serves an Amazing God! 🙂

    We cared for my MIL and it was challenging and rewarding and a great opportunity for the children to learn to serve and to be a blessing to her! We have more elder care in our future . . . .


  10. Annie
    October 9, 2013 | 10:18 am

    I will be praying for you and your entire family during this time. The Lord surely will bless your open hearts and home, it is His will for these things to be done! He will make the way for you. He will give you the grace and help you need, in the exact moment you need it. Will it be challenging?! Yes!!! But, when you are walking the road of Christ, we know that will happen. What a godly example you all are and I praise the Lord for you all!


  11. Bambi @ In the Nursery of the Nation
    October 9, 2013 | 10:53 am

    It is a beautiful thing to watch The Lord work in y’all’s family, Kimberly. His will is perfect. Praying for wisdom and clear, unmistakeable direction for you guys as you let him direct your paths.


  12. Janee Campbell
    October 9, 2013 | 11:48 am

    Awesome Post!! Can’t wait to hear what happens on the adoption front. What a blessing it will be to have your grandmother with you. She sounds like an amazing woman and an awesome example and resource of love and wisdom for your children. God is surely blessing you!


  13. Jacqueline
    October 9, 2013 | 11:54 am

    Wow. This post just gave me the shivers. God bless!


  14. Jessica S
    October 9, 2013 | 11:57 am

    So excited about Grandma Connie moving in with you! The time we have spent with her was a great blessing.


  15. Katena
    October 9, 2013 | 12:35 pm

    What a wonderful story. We were able to spend a lot quality time before my grandmother passed. My kids are always telling stories about Grammy and we miss her. Enjoy and value this time.God be with you at this precious time in your life.


  16. JoyFilledMom
    October 9, 2013 | 2:58 pm

    What an exciting season that you are walking through. I will be praying for you.



  17. sarahelisabeth
    October 9, 2013 | 5:31 pm

    Wow. It is a privilege to be able to care for older relatives. We have had my husband’s mother live with us for the past six and half years.
    I have had to learn that caring for older people takes time. It is often more difficult to work out what is happening when they are less well and they can’t be hurried in the way that it might be possible to hurry with a little child. There may well be tasks around looking after your Grandmother that you will need to do and can’t be given to an older child.

    One thing that we have found difficult, and might be worth sorting out initially, is care when you go away. My husband is an only child and arranging holidays can be a major challenge. We were blessed with kind friends who “Granny sat” for a week, this last summer.

    Do pray that God will clearly guide,with both situations, and give you strength through His all-sufficient grace.


  18. Nicki
    October 9, 2013 | 6:38 pm

    This post gave me chills more than once. So happy for you! My favorite part:

    “Additionally our decisions over the past years to be deliberately available for people mean that we don’t have a lifestyle of commitments that would make it impossible or difficult to be home with her.”

    This is so hard to find in the homeschool community today.


  19. Rhoda
    October 9, 2013 | 7:38 pm

    I will most definitely be praying for you and your family. We know the joys and sorrows of foster care! God is faithful! Blessings as you care for your grandmother also. Praying that your family will have the love and patience to deal with the things that God sends your way!


  20. Elizabeth Jones
    October 9, 2013 | 8:09 pm

    I’m praying. We’re knocking on the adoption door also, so this means a lot to me right now.
    Give my love to your grandmother (you and she would remember me as Elizabeth Wellons).


  21. Blair
    October 10, 2013 | 8:27 am

    Eeeek!That’s so exciting on all fronts!


  22. KL
    October 10, 2013 | 11:44 am

    HE is all-powerful and full of new mercies each day! We have not been able to have children, and this time last year I was grieving heavily as the door seemed to be shut to any type of adoption. “Somehow”, one year later we are waiting to be officially matched with a little one in Asia. God is too good to us!


  23. MaryBeth
    October 10, 2013 | 8:42 pm

    That is great news. God Bless


  24. Annie
    October 10, 2013 | 8:58 pm

    Praise God Kim! I am so happy for you and your family. We will be praying for you guys!


  25. Janet Kiessling
    October 10, 2013 | 9:21 pm

    As an adoptive family ourselves, we will send a lot of prayers of wisdom & discernment your way! The Kiessling Family


  26. Carla
    October 11, 2013 | 1:12 am

    Please don’t imply to the sibling group that you are “saving” them. And if they are children of color, please teach them about their heritage and expose them to other people with similar racial backgrounds. Please act as if you need them as much as they need you.

    ==an adoptive mom


  27. JenT
    October 13, 2013 | 9:55 am

    I think that’s wonderful!


  28. sassy willis
    October 14, 2013 | 6:47 am

    are the children christian? don’t assume that you can just teach them what you believe – and have them just follow it. Religion is a choice and all children have the right to choose to believe or not – expecting and enforcing belief is abuse


    Lauree Solberg Reply:

    He family has never seemed like one filled with religion abuse.


    Lauree Solberg Reply:



    sassy willis Reply:

    my point is what religion are the children who are coming into the home? are they atheist? will they get a choice about how they wish to live in terms of religion or is the only way the way of the parents. I am from a family that is multi faith and we are close despite such different views and ways we choose to live dress etc – will these children who have no real say on whether they want to be placed into an extremely conservative family – i am not saying this family is bad just inflexible in regards to religious belief and expectations of what their children must learn and live by


    Kimberly @ Raising Olives Reply:

    This will be an open, private adoption.

    The children’s parents have chosen to use a Christian adoption agency and the children’s parents will choose the specific family that will adopt their children. So the children will be placed in a home that is chosen for them by their parents.


  29. Lauree Solberg
    October 31, 2013 | 12:02 pm

    Hi Kim, I’m catching on reading and just saw this, so I have no idea if you will see this. I love the fact that you will bringing your grandmother into your home. I believe that we should all do this (if at all possible). I will be praying for your family.


  30. Becky Morecraft
    November 20, 2013 | 11:53 am

    Thanks for posting about Mrs. Bradley. Shes delightful. So glad for you and her. Also, a copy of the book I mentioned to you in Asheville is on its way to you,”Grandma’s Moving In,” by my friend Stephanie Cone. She’s helped care for her two grandmothers (one is blind) for many years in her home.


  31. Nikki
    November 30, 2013 | 11:23 am

    What wonderful blessings!! I have goosebumps because I’m so excited for your family.


  32. Danielle C
    December 11, 2013 | 3:33 pm

    Thank you for sharing such private parts of your life to encourage others. I’ve enjoyed reading the emails about all that going on with your gang. I was especially saddened to read your last post about your twelfth child. We found out today that at fourteen weeks we also lost our child; it was our seventh. We went for an ultrasound because I was in excruciating pain, which I thought was from a recently discovered cyst. Our hearts are broken, but also encouraged knowing we’ll see that sweet child again. Thank you for sharing your story because it was a comfort to my heart on this terrible day. We will pray for your family. Merry Christmas to all of you and we pray you are comforted by the love of our King.


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